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 subject: How to hold your SO all night long
 From:  @}-,-`-- @}-,-`-- @}-,-`-- @}-,-`-- @}-,-`-- @}-,-

I personally have always preferred lying on my back with my arms around her,
her head on my chest, legs intertwined. Since the last two gf's slept on their
sides/chests, they used my chest as a pillow. I gotta say, to whoever says
that sleeping with you arms around your SO is torture, I never found that to
be the case. I always got my best sleep when I was with someone else (and
that ISN'T because of being worn out...just the comfort factor). The only probl
em I ever ran into was that my last girlfriend was a late riser, And I tend to
be a bit of an early bird, especially when I get a deep sleep...and, when she
was laying on top/side, it was REAL tough to move at all without waking her...

                                          Some Simple Observations
                                          From My Point Of View


 From: Foxy Lady  @}-,-`-- @}-,-`-- @}-,-`-- @}-,-`-- @}-,-`-- @}-,-`-- @}-,-`-

There's nothing I love more than to fall asleep in my lover's arms,
waking up in the morning, still cuddling, is something I dream about.
But, alas! My SO can't sleep when I'm in the same bed as him - even
if I'm not in contact with him!

I spend the whole night restraining myself from touching him, and he
sleeps badly just because I'm there.

When I'm in his arms I feel so secure. I become so relaxed, I sleep
really well. I just wish he could relax with me too.

 From: Pamela Kay <>  @}-,-`-- @}-,-`-- @}-,-`--

My spouse and I have reached a really great compromise (I think, weve
been together for 4 years...seems like yesterday..with 3 kids and one
on the feels like a 100 years sometimes :)

We lay in the spoon position for a while and when he starts to drift off
(which is very quickly when he horizontal :), I roll over and we hold
hands.  There are times when I wake up in the middle of the night and
we are still holding hands.  Many nights we also intertwine our feet.
Close enough to touch, far enough to sleep comfortably.

Mrs. B

 From: (QUEEN ZENOBIA!)  @}-,-`-- @}-,-`--- @}-,-`---

[...]       yes i like to have my fiance sleep with his head on my chest
and vice versa also. I do not really find it uncomfortable to sleep next
to my fiance in this manner. I think perhaps i can find it more comfortable
because i have some extra padding who know :) [not fat just extra padding :)]

-kimberli k roan

 From: (Kirk Franklin)  @}-,-`-- @}-,-`-- @}-,-`-- @}-,--

I like sleeping side by side, like spoons, or lying on my back and having
the other person's head on my chest.

>* separate beds in separate rooms (probably the best if one or both are
>  snoring too loud, or on those nasty days when you hate each other)

This is why God invented couches.  It's also very healthy to recognize that
there will be times someone will be sleeping there.

I also believe in each person using their own sheets, to eliminate the
problem of hogging the sheets.  It's no fun to get in trouble for something
you did while you were asleep...or while they're asleep.  A former
girlfriend once had a dream about me doing something she didn't like, and I
was in trouble all the next day.

No worries,

Scooter Corleone

 From: (Todd W. Thompson)  @}-,-`-- @}-,-`-- @}-,-`- (Teresa Kline) writes:
>I have never been more uncomfortable than when someone is trying to hold me
>while I sleep.  I can't turn over, I've got someone either breathing or
>snoring in my ear, and it's just darned unpleasant.  Sorry, guys.  :)

YAY! Someone, and someone of the opposite sex, who agrees with me! I'm one
of those people who HAS to roll around a lot and kick covers and flip
pillows over (it's colder on the other side, you see) and so on. And it used
to annoy the heck out of my girlfriend. And now I find someone else who's
like me in this respect! ALRIGHT!

Now all I have to do is find one who'll date me.. :)


 From: (Michael Haardt)  @}-,-`-- @}-

If you can't find sleep, try throwing pillows in your faces.
You soon will get exhausted enough... :-)

It is one of the most wonderful things to look at your SO's face, when
she awakes and there is nothing comparable to spend hours in the bed,
just hugging and kissing.


 From: <>  @}-,-`-- @}-,-`-- @}-,-`-- @}-,-`-- @}-,-`-- @}-

As an answer to the "too hot" remark...less covers always seemed (Yes, past
tense..) to do the trick for me 'n mine. I have found that EVERY female
I have slept with (I am not saying had sex with...that limits the generality
quite a bit...and I am not saying that this is true for all women...) have
slept better with me holding them than they did without me holding them. But
my roommate and his girlfriend DON'T "cuddle up" when they go to sleep...
neither one "feels comfortable" that way. So they are pretty much back to
back, with hands held between them. I guess you just have to find a way
that both people can enjoy, and also sleep comfortably...try different ways,
and then go to what "feels best"....

 From: (Kyle Elisabeth Overstreet)  @}-,-`-- @}-,-`--- @}-,-`---
 subject: waking up

[...]    Now that we have been together as long as we have, I think it's fun
that he gets these erections in his sleep, because he wakes up very surprised
to find he's having sex!-- PLEASE don't try this with a new partner until
you find out how he feels about it!  This is one way to rape a man-- and
I go slowly with him... and if he says no-- even in his sleep-- I stop.
        Most of the time, this is his favorite wake up call, though

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