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Islam FAQ (Part 6/15): Marriage Laws in Islam

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        Part 1 - Welcome & Index
        Part 2 - Info on Islamic News Groups
        Part 3 - Introduction to Islam
        Part 4 - God & Worship
        Part 5 - Islam, Quran & Muhammad (PBUH)
        Part 6 - Marriage Laws in Islam
        Part 7 - Women In Islam
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        Part 14 - Islamic Calendar & Prayer Time Table for 1994
        Part 15 - Misc: List of Halal Foods


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                         PART 7: Marriage Laws In Islam



				    Contents				    

				 --Articles--
 1. Marriage ........................................................ from IINN 
 2. Whom to Marry ................................................... from IINN 
 3. Mahr ............................................................ from IINN 
 4. Intimacy ........................................................ from IINN 
 5. Walima .......................................................... from IINN 
 6. Duties & Rights After Marriage .................................. from IINN 
 7. Advices to Husbands ............................................. from IINN 
 8. Advices to Wives ................................................ from IINN 
				--Announcements--
 9. Archive Info .............................................................. 
10. Credits ................................................................... 



 Articles .....................................................................


 1. Marriage ........................................................ from IINN 


    Spouses: 

    Allah, most Gracious says about spouses in Quran: 


    Among His signs is [the fact] that He  has created spouses for you among
    yourselves so that you may dwell  in  tranquillity with them, and He has
    planted love and mercy  between  you;  In  that are signs for people who
    reflect. Qur'an [30 : 21] 

    He has planted affection and  mercy  between  you.  Qur'an  [30: 12] and
    says: 

    They are a garment for you and you  are  a  garment to them. Qur'an [2 :
    187] 

    Consider this in conjunction with the following verse: 

    The best garment is the garment of God-consciousness Qur'an [7 : 26] 

    It requires that a  husband  and  wife  should  be  as garments for each
    other. Just  as  garments  are  for  protection,  comfort,  show  and
    concealment for human beings, Allah expects husbands and wives to be for
    one another. 


    And the believers, men and women, are protecting friends of one another;
    they enjoin the right and forbid  the  wrong, and they establish worship
    and they pay the poor-due, and they obey Allah and His messenger; as for
    those, Allah will have mercy on  them;  Lo! Allah is Mighty, Wise. Allah
    hath promised to believers - men  and  women - gardens underwhich rivers
    flow, to dwell therein, and beautiful mansions in gardens of everlasting
    bliss; but the greatest bliss is the good pleasure of Allah: This is the
    supreme felicity. 

    Qur'an [9 : 71 - 72] 


 2. Whom to Marry ................................................... from IINN 



    Allah also gives us freedom and urges us to: 

    ...Marry the women of your  choice...  Qur'an [4 : 3] Similarly, for the
    women: 

    "A girl came to the Prophet (peace  be  upon  him) and informed him that
    her father had married her to her  cousin  against her wishes, whereupon
    the Prophet allowed her  to  exercise  her  choice. She then said, 'I am
    reconciled to what my father did but  I wanted to make it known to women
    that fathers have no say in  this  matter'".  -  Hadith  narrated by Ibn
    Majah 

    Narrated Abdullah: "We were with  the  Prophet, peace be upon him, while
    we were young and had no wealth  whatever.  So Allah's Apostle, peace be
    upon him, said, `O young  people!  Whoever  among  you can marry, should
    marry, because it helps him lower  his  gaze  and guard his modesty, and
    whoever is not able to  marry,  should  fast,  as fasting diminishes his
    sexual power.'" 

    Narrated Abu Huraira: "The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, `A woman is
    married for four things,  i.e.,  her  wealth,  her  family  status,  her
    beauty, and her religion.  So  you  should  marry  the  religious  woman
    [otherwise] you will be a loser.'" 




 3. Mahr ............................................................ from IINN 

    

    Mahr is the gift that is given by the husband to his wife at wedding. It
    can be anything in any amount, as agreed by the bride and bride-groom. 

    Allah says about Mahr in the Chapter `Woman' in Quran: 

    And give the women (on marriage) their  Mahr as a free gift. Qur'an [4 :
    4] 

    If you had given the latter a  cantar  (of gold i.e. a great amount) for
    dower (Mahr) take not the least bit of it back ... Qur'an [4 : 20] 

    Narrated Sahl bin Sa`d: "The Prophet,  peace be upon him, said to a man,
    `Marry, even with (a Mahr equal to) an iron ring.'" 




 4. Intimacy ........................................................ from IINN 

    

    Intimacy is seen as an act of procreation.  An eye for the what is about
    to come is kept open  in  this  respect  as  well.  The following prayer
    reminds us of God,  results  of  our  actions  and  reminds  us  of  our
    commitment to train our offspring. 

    Narrated Ibn Abbas: "The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, `If anyone of
    you, when having a sexual intercourse with his wife says: 

    In the name of Allah! O Allah!  Protect  me  from Satan and protect what
    you bestow upon us (i.e. an offspring) from Satan. and if it is destined
    that they should have a  child,  then  Satan  will never be able to harm
    him.'" 




 5. Walima .......................................................... from IINN 

    

    Walima is the wedding reception  given  to  friends and family after the
    consummation of marriage. It is given  by the husband on this auspicious
    occassion, showing his  happiness  and  sharing  it with the friends and
    family. 

    Abdur Rahman bin Auf said, "The Prophet,  peace be upon him, said to me,
    `Give a wedding banquet, even with one sheep.'" 

    Narrated Abu Musa:  "The  Prophet,  peace  be  upon  him, said, `Set the
    captives free, accept the  invitation  (including to a wedding banquet),
    and pay a visit to the patients.'" 

    By this saying of the Prophet,  peace  be  upon him, it is also enjoined
    upon us to join in the happiness of our brothers. 




 6. Duties & Rights After Marriage .................................. from IINN 

    

    Duties and Rights of Husband and Wife after marriage: 

    Allah informs us about the just rights of each other on us: 

    But, in accordance with justice, the wife's rights (with regard to their
    husbands) are equal  to  the  (husband's)  rights  with  regard to them,
    although men are a  degree  above  them;  and  Allah  is Almighty, Wise.
    Qur'an [2 : 228] 

    The statement that men are  a  degree  above  women means that authority
    within the household has been give  to  the husband in preference to the
    wife because a heavier  burden  has  been  placed  on  his  shoulders by
    another verse of the Quran which says: 


    Men shall take full care of women, because  Allah has given the one more
    strength than the other, and because they support them from their means.
    Qur'an [4 : 34] 




 7. Advices to Husbands ............................................. from IINN 


    Jabir  Narrated  that  the  Prophet,  peace  be  upon  him,  gave  these
    instructions in  his  sermon  during   Farewell  Pilgrimage:  "Fear  God
    regarding women; for you have taken them [in marriage] with the trust of
    God." [Mishkat] 

    Narrated Aisha, God's messenger said: "Among the believers who show most
    perfect faith are those who have  the  best disposition, and are kindest
    to their families." [Tirmidhi] 

    Narrated Abu Huraira, God's messenger  said: "The believers who show the
    most perfect faith are those who have  the best disposition and the best
    of you are those who are best to their wives." [Tirmidhi] 

    Aisha has related that the Holy Prophet,  peace be upon him, would enter
    the  house  with  a  pleasing  disposition  and  a  smile  on  his lips.
    [Uswa-i-Hasana] 



    Narrated Al-Aswad: "I asked Aisha, `What  did the Prophet, peace be upon
    him, do at home?' She said, `He used  to work for his family and when he
    heard the call for the prayer, he would go out.'" [Bukhari] 

    Narrated Abu Huraira: "Allah's  Apostle,  peace  be upon him, said, `The
    woman is like a rib; if you try to straighten her, she will break. So if
    you want to get benefit from her, do so while she still has some bent.'"
    [Bukhari] 

    Narrated Abu Huraira: "The  Prophet,  peace  be upon him, said, `Whoever
    believes in Allah and  the  Last  Day  should  not  hurt  (trouble)  his
    neighbor. And I advise you to take  care  of women, for they are created
    from a rib and the most crooked portion of the rib is its upper part; if
    you try to straighten it, it will  break,  and  if you leave it, it will
    reamin crooked, so I urge you to take care of women. [Bukhari] 

    Narrated Abdullah bin Amr  bin  Al-As:  "Allah's  Apostle, peace be upon
    him, said, `O Abdullah! Have I not  been  informed that you fast all the
    day and stand in prayer all night?' I said, `Yes, O Allah's Apostle!' He
    said, `Do not do that! Observe the fast sometimes and also leave them at
    other times; stand up for the  prayer  at night and also sleep at night.
    Your body has a right over you  and  your  wife  has a right over you.'"
    [Bukhari] 

    Narrated Ibn Umar: "The Prophet,  peace  be  upon him, said, `All of you
    are guardians  and  are  responsible  for  your  wards.  The  ruler is a
    guardian and the man is a guardian of his family; the lady is a guardian
    who is responsible for her husband's house and his offspring; and so all
    of you are guardians and are responsible for your wards.'" 

    Men should forbear any  shortcomings  of  women in view of the following
    verse of Quran: 

    Live with them in  kindness;  even  if  you  dislike  them,  perhaps you
    dislike something in which God has place much good. Qur'an [4 : 19] 




 8. Advices to Wives ................................................ from IINN 


    Anas reported God's messenger as saying, "When a woman observes the five
    times of prayer, fasts during Ramadan,  preserves her chastity and obeys
    her husband, she may enter by any  of  the  gates of paradise she wishes
    (in other words  nothing  will  prevent  her  from  entering paradise)."
    [Mishkat] 

    Um Salma reported God's messenger  as  saying,  "Any woman who dies when
    her husband is pleased with her will enter Paradise." [Tirmidhi] 

    Abu Huraira told that when  God's  messenger  was  asked which woman was
    best, he replied, "The one who fills [her husband] with joy when he sees
    her, obeys him when he directs and  does  not  oppose him by displeasing
    him regarding her person or property." [Mishkat] 


    Providing for wife and family: 

    Quran teaches us to be reasonable and fair to our wives and family. 


    House women wherever you reside, accoding  to your circumstances, and do
    not harass them in order to make  life  difficult for them. Qur'an [65 :
    6] 

    The statement of Allah in the chapter `Woman': 

    `Men are protectors and maintainers of women.' Qur'an [4 : 34] 

    Bukhari quotes the following verse under the heading: .. the superiority
    of providing for one's family: 

    (O Mohammed!) They ask you what they  ought to spend. Say: That which is
    beyond your needs. Thus Allah make clear  to you His Signs in order that
    you may give thought (to it)  in  this  worldly  life and the Hereafter.
    Qur'an [2 : 219-220] 

    Narrated Abu Masud Al-Ansari:  "The  Prophet,  peace  be upon him, said,
    `When a Muslim spends  something  on  his  family  intending  to receive
    Allah's reward, it is regarded as  Sadqa  (spending  in the name of God)
    for him.'" 

    We should always remember  that  Allah  is  the one who gives us, we are
    mere trustees of the funds. 

    Narrated Abu Huraira: "Allah's Apostle,  peace be upon him, said, `Allah
    said, O the son of Adam! Spend, and I shall spend on you.'" 

    Narrated Abu Huraira: "Allah's  Apostle,  peace  be upon him, said, `The
    best alms is that which  you  give  when  you  are  rich, and you should
    support your dependants first.'" [Bukhari] 

    Abu Huraira reported God's messenger,  peace be upon him, as saying: "Of
    the dinar (unit of currency) that  you  spend as a contribution in God's
    path, or to set free a slave,  or  as  charity  given  to a needy, or to
    support your family, the one yielding  the greatest reward is that which
    you spent on your family. [Muslim] 




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10. Credits ................................................................... 



    The author wishes to thank all those who contributed in any capacity for
    the original one part FAQ or this multi-part FAQ. 


                                 -- SOURCES --
    

    The basic  introduction  and  literature  presented  in  the FAQ is from
    brochures on Islam distributed  by  Institute  of  Islamic Information &
    Education (III&E). These  brochures  were  typed  in  electronic form by
    Ms.M.Ahmed. 

    The  information  on   soc.religion.islam  forum  (in  Part  2) has been
    compiled  from   USENET   archives   and  administrative  logs  of
    Soc.Religion.Islam moderator panel. 

    What is III&E? 

    III&E is an acronym for the Institute of Islamic Information & Education
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    Revenue Service (IRS) as a not-for-profit religious organization. 

    More information can be obtained by  contacting Dr. M. Amir, III&E, P.O.
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