Top Document: [rec.scouting.*] Leader Hints (FAQ 13) Previous Document: Re: Hard Questions - Discipline Next Document: Re: Help a new Wolf leader... PLEASE! See reader questions & answers on this topic! - Help others by sharing your knowledge This past week at summer camp I was quite impressed with the new scout patrol. No homesickness, cooking and cleaning was going well, spirits were high, everyone seemed to be having a good time. Friday during breakfast cleanup.......WHAMMMMM! All of a sudden one of the boys hit another and we had two boys crying. "Everyone is always making fun of me...." etc. Things got calmed down, but I knew that I had to figure out what to do not to lose this boy and probably others. I remembered an activity told to me by an elementary teacher and modified it for this situation. At lunch time, I had the patrol leader (who is older) draw and cut out a cardboard person with a "Rip me" sign on him. I sat down with the patrol after lunch with this poster. They all were eager to rip into him. The patrol leader eagerly ripped off the ear of the poster as I instructed him ahead of time. Without any other prompting the boys all eagerly ripped off parts of the "guy." I was amazed. After calming them down, I asked, What's left? "nothing" Which was better, your part or the original? and so forth our discussion then went. We agreed that the boy in the poster was no longer any good to help anyone and that the parts were not too useful. We needed to put it back together. They all worked together, some reluctantly, putting our "guy" back together with tape. When they finished, I put him in front of everyone and after a long silence of them looking at him, wondering what was going on, I asked if he was the same as he was before, and did they thing think that he had wanted to get ripped up. They agreed he wasn't the same as before, but some did not buy into the idea of him having any feelings. I turned their attention toward the event that happened during breakfast. I told them it bothered and saddened me that one of the boys in the patrol felt as though he was picked on so much. I made the analogy that every time they said something bad about someone else it was just like ripping off a piece of him, he would not be the same after being called names or being put down. ....Dead quiet. I then said that the boy who blew up that morning was probably not feeling too good having had comments thrown at him throughout the week, he has in the same shape as our "rip me guy." We needed to find some way of building him back up and making him whole. I asked all the boys to think of something that they liked about the one boy. After a little while, some of the boys volunteered the thing that they had thought of, more of the boys said something until all of them had said something good about the hurt boy. It was clearly obvious that the boy appreciated the comments. I concluded by asking the boys to think about what they say to others, that they might be hurting them in a way that they did not want or expect. They didn;t have to like everyone else in the patrol, but things would work out better of they didn't say nasty things to other people. I was surprised at how well this activity went. In a way, it was a modified team building activity we use sometimes during our annual troop orientation workshop weekend for boy leaders. A group of 11 year olds seem so mature to us, but they are still quite young. This was a heavy thing to lay on them, but I believe that they got the point and may be just a little better for it. I hope that this article is worth the bandwidth. User Contributions:Top Document: [rec.scouting.*] Leader Hints (FAQ 13) Previous Document: Re: Hard Questions - Discipline Next Document: Re: Help a new Wolf leader... PLEASE! Single Page [ Usenet FAQs | Web FAQs | Documents | RFC Index ] Send corrections/additions to the FAQ Maintainer: nelsonb@aztec.asu.edu
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