|First of all, I think it's ridiculous for all of those who keep commenting that this baby is a "gift from God." Puh-leease!! Just in case you all haven't read the Bible lately, let me remind you that God never intended for anyone to have sexual relations outside of marriage in the first place, so it's rather doubtful that He, in His infinite wisdom, would "bless" an immoral act with such a precious gift!
Matter of fact, I defy anyone to find an instance in the Bible where the Lord rewarded anyone for being immoral...look what happened to Sodom and Gomorrah! Need I mention the Great Flood?? He even punished King David (one of His favourite people)for having an affair by taking the life of the child he created with Bathsheba (who was, by the way, his "wife" at the time) as a result of David’s immoral slaying of Bathsheba’s husband by sending him to the front line of battle!
The problem nowadays is that people have forgotten, or rather ignored, the old saying, "You play, you pay!" I am not necessarily for abortion (matter of fact, I’m entirely against partial birth abortion because it’s my opinion that once you decide to carry a pregnancy that far honey, it's too late to go back).
I can, however, understand someone seeking an abortion out of desperation…but then that should be the "one and only" abortion that woman ever has. Also, it should be done extremely early in the pregnancy and if she waits until she's six months pregnant to do it, it should be considered murder. I think that records should be kept on each woman having an abortion, and once that woman has had (or attempts to have)a second abortion, she should be arrested (unless of course, that rare chance of her life being threatened by carrying the pregnancy to term has been medically determined).
You'd think after having had one abortion (and I'm not talking having anesthetic "twilight sleep" but actually being awake, and having it done under a local, like in the “old days,” so that she has to fully experience the results of her decision), a woman would be smart enough, and concerned enough, to find ways to prevent further unwanted pregnancies.
As an adoptee, I have a few things to say about giving up a child for adoption! I hear all the time what a "great act of love" it was for a mother to give her child up. I personally feel that is just as big a cop-out as someone choosing to abort! Either way, that woman gives up on taking responsibility for her actions. If that mother really loved that child, she'd go through hell or high water to try and keep it and provide for it in whatever way she could.
My birth parents were married and I had two older brothers when I was given up at 2 months of age. After having four kids myself, and having gone through lots of hand-me-downs in the way of furniture, bottles, clothes, toys, etc., and having lived through being poor at one time in my life, you can't tell me that, even if they were broke, my parents couldn't have put boys clothes on me until they could afford better! And don't give me that "they probably couldn't afford to feed you all" excuse...there are always soup kitchens and food pantries! And what about relatives??
I think a major problem today is that too many women try to hold onto useless men by getting pregnant and, after the fact, find that these bums can’t take care of themselves much less the children they conceive. But all of a sudden there’s this new baby in the world and nobody has a clue what to do with it.
We need to teach our daughters from very young on to respect themselves for who they are. We need to encourage their independence and ability to become self-sufficient rather than let them think that Prince Charming (which usually turns out to be some manipulative dirt-ball with a drinking or drug problem) is going to come along and rescue them!
Most importantly we need to communicate to young, impressionable women that, when some obviously needy guy does happen to come into the picture, there’s no amount of love or money (or self-sacrifice) that she can “change him” with!
A personal favourite piece of advice I’ve passed along to my daughter is that if she sees a sloppy looking guy riding down the road on a bike who “might look good if you got him a different haircut and cleaned him up a bit” but he’s not wearing spandex bike shorts, a helmet, or carrying a water bottle…guess what? The bum doesn’t have a valid driver’s license!!! Don’t try to rescue him and turn him into what you think he could potentially become if only he had a chance! Call a spade, a spade! If he looks like a bum, he probably is a bum. Stay away! Stay far away!!! This is not time for handing out Charity! Besides, what's that saying?? "Charity begins at home,"??
I think the Countries where the parents select the future spouses of their children actually have a pretty good idea! They’ve more than likely had years to get to know the potential in-laws as well as having all those years to research the backgrounds of the prospective sons or daughters-in-law and are probably aware of genetic imbalances, as well as other negative aspects that may present themselves way down the road following the marriage.
Let’s face it, we, in America, are far more careful about breeding our pets than we are about breeding our future generations!