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Question by curiousitycatcus
Submitted on 10/9/2003
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I am interested in being polyamorous. I have been married for over twenty years and there is no intimacy. I met someone who has been married a long time too and not much sex either. We have fooled around a little and we are really attracted to each other. I dont think he is ready or my husband to partake. What do i do? I was thinking to cool it with him unless he wants to "come clean" and let his wife know. my husband suspects something. He visits our house. I guess it could be a big mess. I just want to be open and honest. any suggestions? We live in a small town and you know how that goes. I will have the opportunity to see his wife this weekend at an event in town and feel uncomfortable about it.

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Answer by Patrick
Submitted on 11/4/2003
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Oh so NOW you want to be open and honest about it? You cheat on your husband of twenty years, but you're afraid to look at it that way, so you try to put a nice face on it by saying now you want to be polyamorous. What a crock. You SHOULD be uncomfortable about it. You have probably destroyed not one but TWO marriages. If you ever loved your husband, divorce him. He should probably divorce you and take as much as he can considering you've committed adultery.

Answer by stormdancer
Submitted on 4/9/2004
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The above answer has a tinge of truth to it, but was a bit more emotional than necessary, IMO. Ok, so you screwed up. Its time to come clean. Here are a few webpages with advice on how to tell the spouse you want to be polyamorous. http://www.polyamory.net/ultbb/Forum1/HTML/001486.html http://www.polyamory.net/ultbb/Forum1/HTML/001477.html http://www.polyamory.net/ultbb/Forum1/HTML/001503.html http://www.xeromag.com/fvmonopoly.html http://www.libchrist.com/poly/howgetwife.html

Answer by nickie
Submitted on 12/21/2004
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I don't agree with Patrick, It's difficult to come clean and sometimes honesty isn't the best policy. I wish you good Luck with your decision. Nickie

Answer by ahh
Submitted on 1/17/2005
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why not just keep things the way they are. Just get it on and when confronted, inform the bastard that you have needs and went elswhere to get "giggy wit it." ps can I have your number?

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