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My bi husband and I started our marriage swinging. He has...

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Question by melimonk
Submitted on 3/31/2005
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My bi husband and I started our marriage swinging.  He has done the most in regards to sex with others and pressured me a lot to find a "boyfriend" so he would not feel "guilty".  He also declared that we should be able to "love" our sex partners as this would not take away from "our love".  Well we found and awesome black bi man who was sexually involved with us both at once until my husband started freaking out!  First its over little things like what I did with the other man vs what I did with him.  Now I have fallen in love with this other man and my husband has so screwed up what we had that I am with this gentleman alone sexually and won't do it with my husband and any other man together.  Well to make a long story short he keeps threatening to leave me and then begging me to stay.  I told him I am NOT giving this man up and he says ok until I want to stay the night over there or see my lover a lot. (every day or every other) Well I have news for him.  I want us all to live as a triad.  HOW do I get him to calm down and see the beauty of this situation.  This man WAS FOR BOTH OF US until he ruined it.  I am feeling like all this has been for his benefit and not mine all along.  And that makes me want a divorce.  Help please.  My name is Melinda but call me Mel


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