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What can i do to prevent a miscarrage? adrianeb3@aol.com

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Answer by jay
Submitted on 9/16/2003
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heres my story. i had my last period back in april. may came around and no period, so me and my husband took a pg test and it was positive. we were so happy. it would be our first baby. on my first dr. visit they did the usuall pap smear and blood draws. everything was good. at 10weeks i had my first ultasound. dr. said everything was still good and he saw the heart beat... i turned 13 weeks and started getting a little worried. i never gained a pound and my body started to fell normal again, but never any blood. my family told me it was all in my head and i worried to much. i hoped they were right. that week at work i started having cramps. went to the dr. and saw a pa. there was no heart beat. she did an ulrasound and the baby didnt look good. i was sent to the hospital for i high teck. ultrasound and transvaginal. they measured the baby at 7 weeks. i just dont understand. my baby died at 7 weeks and the doctor never noticed in the ultasound at 10 weeks. and my body never did bleed. the very next day i had a d&c. me and my husband are tring again, but i cant help being scared it will happen again...a baby is what i want most in my life.. im scared it wont happen.

Answer by Sadness
Submitted on 11/6/2003
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I have a daughter who will be 5 next month. We had decided that we wanted another baby. I found out that I was pregnant last August 2002. We were so excited. My pregnancy was great. I had no problems and no pains. I was 19 weeks when we were told that the baby had died. We were devestated. Not only were we told our son was dead we were then told that I had to be induced and would have to deliver him as if he was alive. I was in labor for 28 hours and was in the hospital for 3 days. Life was not real good at that time. It was really difficult to deal with. I have been going to counciling for the past year to help understand all of this. We chose to do testing on the baby to see if there was anything wrong with him. The tests all showed there was nothing. The doctor said that there was a knot in the cord that cut off his oxygen. Well, I found out that I was pregnant this October 2003. We were again so excited. I was scared but told myself that I had to be strong for this baby. I was 6 weeks when I began bleeding. I talked to the doctor and he said don't worry as long as you don't have cramps. So I tried to take him advice. But I knew in my heart that it is not normal to bleed. I have never had it in the past. I was right I had a miscarrage 3 days later. I still never had a cramp the whole time. My only advice is that everyone knows there body. When something is telling you its not right go with your instincts. You are the one who knows best. You cannot do anything to prevent a miscarrage from happening or from your baby dying. All you can do is be causious and aware of what your body is feeling. Also a doctor does not know everything so you cannot always take his word as if it will all go as planned. I was told that there is nothing wrong with me. My doctor said that will never happen to you. Well guess what it did. There is no test that they can do that will tell them if you are at risk. So we are all at risk. We just all have to know that it wasn't anything that any of us did. It is something that unfortunatly just happens.

Answer by sunny
Submitted on 12/10/2003
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I had two misscarrages in a row. that is the most devestating things happan to any woman. first, i was under two months, with first pregnansy. i was shocked. for two years i waited for next pg. Butttt.. that happened again and more more worst than ever. For two days i was bleeding and no doctor helped me even when I got to the hospital, while i was bleeding so badly and pain, they sent me home until mondy the day doctor can be avilable. that is rediculous!!! in the way out I vomited and fainted , I felt down. the nurse retuned me to the room. finally they changed their mind & decided to keep me and find a doctor on call. after horrible hours and D&C done, they released me again. I came home, but so upset of doctors ,they charge us so expensive while they cann'tdo nothing or they don't know. I blame most OBG doctors they most do bussines not medicare. they are evils.

Answer by Jess
Submitted on 1/17/2004
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I had a miscarriage last June 2003, exactly 8 weeks. I am 4 weeks along now Jan. 2004 and am very nervous about the situation. I didn't have a d&c, I let it go natural because I didn't want to take a chance and maybe a miracle happening and the baby be fine, but it happened, and it was extremely painful. Like everyone else on here has said there is nothing you can do to prevent it unfortunately. But if it does happen just know that it is God watching over you and letting you know that there is something wrong with the baby or it wasn't meant to be at that time. That's how I got through it, just put your trust in God. He will never do you wrong. I just hope that everything works out this time. And good luck to everyone else. I fell your pain.

Answer by Stacey
Submitted on 1/18/2004
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I am so sorry to hear of everyones loss! I know how devastating it is, and its somthing that stays with you forever. Sadly i had a M/C on the 30th of October 03, i was 13 weeks pregnant,and a happy mum to be. Everything seemed to be going smoothly, apart from the odd menstral like cramps i kept getting, i was told this was normal, just growing pains. On oct 30th i had my very first dating scan, i was extremly nervous sitting in the waiting room with my partner, I just felt there was somthing not quite right. when the sonagrapher scanned my belly i could see there was no baby, she said the baby could be hiding, so she would have to do an internal, BUT still no little baby in there, i had what is called a blighted ovum, where the baby stops growing at conception, what remains is a growing sac and placenta. That night i m/c naturally from the stress of knowing my baby died. Again i am so sorry for everyones loss, i know now there is nothing really you can do to prevent m/c, except from the very obvious, dont smoke, dont drink, dont go on fast fair ground rides and so on.. I wish you all the best of luck, and i also symphasize for many other people in the future who read this board and have had a m/c! Baby dust to you all. xxxx

Answer by maria
Submitted on 1/21/2004
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While I also have had a miscarriage, and an 11 year old son, I think I am pregnant now. While your body may miscarry, it is determining whether the baby is healthy and fit. "Survival of the fitest"... whether this is the factor of determining a retarded, nonfunctional baby to be... it is nature's way of providing the healthiest to our species. Tips... take your vitamins, Folic Acid is used for the development of the notochord, which leads to the development of the spinal cord and brain. If this one factor alone is not implanted within your fetus it may cause it to abort. I see that most of the miscarriages happened later in development, so maybe this is what may help to prevent it.

Answer by Brandie
Submitted on 1/24/2004
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When i was 17 i found out that i was pregnant. Like many teenage girls now a days i was wild. my mother and i weren't very close. I was excited about being a mom rather than some my age. I got up the nerve and told my mother knowing she would support me. As i thought she did and i started planning for my new arrival, never even having the thought of a miscarrage cross my mind. i went to my doctors appointments and did all my blood tests. i enrolled in teen parenting classes, i visited with other teen moms to help me understand what a child at my age would do to me mentally....i was bound and determined to become the best mom i could be. 12 weeks into my pregnancy my doctor couldn't find a heart beat in my baby. like most others with this issue he said that the baby just maybe hiding. I went for an internal ultrasound. That day i found out my baby had died 3 weeks prior to my doctors appointment. The nursed said that i should have became very ill, some have even died, because of the bacteria that builds up with a nonliving fetus nesting inside you. then they sent me home for a week before they would preform a d/c on me. I was devastated! Like some other women i have no idea i had lost my baby. i felt pregnant i gained weight, i had no bleeding or cramps at all. after my d/c was preformed i had test ran to see what the problem was...I found out that she had abnormal chromosomes. if i would have carried to full term and delivered i would have had a vegetable for a child. i fell into a deep depression for a few months but i managed to pull myself together and i thank the lord to this day for making me pregnant and letting me experience what i did. it was truly a blessing in disguise because raising a child at 17 can't be easy, let alone one that is handicapped. i have become a lot more responsible, my mother and i have a wonderful fiends ship now, and i get a second chance at growing up making my life successful. i hope to all you teenage girls who think it will never happen to you...you understand i thought the same way. It can happen and it did happen to me. Be responsible and i know u are going to have sex no matter what anyone says but please wear protection and remember my story. if u think being a teen is hard...try doing what i had to do.

Answer by Melissa
Submitted on 1/28/2004
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I have a 2 year old daughter, and currently am 14 weeks pregnant. Prior to this pregnancy I had 2 misscarrages. It was a very scary and heartbreaking thing to happen to me. I didn't know what I was doing wrong and why this was happening to me. I had a healthy pregnancy with my daughter. Why was I having complications now? I relized that some things are just meant to be. Going through these misscarrages just made me more determined to have another child. I have been really paranoid about this pregnancy, but I have carried this child longer than the two previous pregnancys. It helps if you do not do anything to stressful to your body, don't drink or smoke. Smoking increases you chance of misscarrige by 10%. My prayers go out to all of you.

Answer by Rose
Submitted on 2/5/2004
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Sadly there is nothing anyone can do to prevent a miscarriage. The only being that has any control over a m/c is God. Something we have to also remember is a m/c is not a punishment. I am 23, I have a 1yr old and found out I was pregnant. I had some spotting but was told that is normal, my body's way of preparing for this new life. I was 6 weeks along when I found out I was pregnant. At 7 weeks I had my first doc appointment. He confirmed it, I was indeed pregnant. He set me up two weeks later for an ultra sound. I never made it to the appointment. Just 2 days ago, I miscarried. It is the hardest thing I have ever been through. I thought I was the reason this baby had died. Did I eat something wrong, turn wrong. what did I do. My husband and I were devastated. We finally realized later that day, that this baby, Morgan, was one of the greatest gifts God could give me. I realized this baby never had to feel pain. This baby was in a safer place than what anyone could ever provide for a child. Our Morgan was with God. Through our beliefs, We believe, we will never be given something we can not handle. Things happen for a reason, We may never realize the reason, but one day hopefully we will all find it. I am sorry for everyone who has felt this kind pain.

Answer by Kitty
Submitted on 2/7/2004
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I have read through all of your stories. I would like to share mine. I had my first child at 19yrs.old. I got pregnant again shortly after that with twins. But do to physical abuse from my husband I delivered them to early and because the technology was not what it is today they died soon afterward. Needless to say I divorced my first husband. When my daughter was 7yrs. old. I met and married my present husband. We have been married now for 18yrs. We have had one living child and as of yesterday 10 pregnancies lost. I have cried and been deeply depressed over our losses. But through faith I pray that we will be blessed with one last child. If I can go through this my dear sisters, rest assured you can to. No each time does not make it any easier, but faith and prayer in our Heavenly Father will allow all of you to keep on trying. Love to you all, and keep the faith.

Answer by kacyjoy
Submitted on 2/10/2004
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I am a 29 year old mother of a wonderful 2 1/2 yr. old son. In Nov. 2003 my husband and I found out that I was pregnant for our second child. We were so happy. Jagger my son was excited, he was going to be a big brother. Shortly before my 1st doctor visit I started spotting very lightly. I called the office and the nurse told me that this was common. So I figured it was normal. I had never spotted for my son. The spotting never stopped and got a little darker pink. On Jan. 19, 2004 I went to the doctor for my 1st ultra sound. I saw my baby moving and flipping and the heart was beating strongly. The ultrasound tech made me a video and printed me some pictures to show my husband and my son. On the following week I started to spot heavier. I called the doctors office,and the nurse assured me once more that this was OK and for me not to worry. Then on the 2nd week after my ultrasound the spotting turned into bleeding.I was horrified. I started to realize the I wasn't feeling pregnant anymore, and my breast weren't tender or sore. I called the doctor and they wanted to see me right away. My husband and I went into the ultrasound room and the ultrasound tech revealed to us that our baby had died. I was crushed and very angry at the doctor and nurses for telling me that everything was OK all those times that I had called. Then the doctor told us that the baby had died the day after we had done our 1st ultrasound. On the day of our 1st ultrasound the baby was 10 week and 5 days, and 3 weeks after the ultrasound the baby was only 10 weeks and 6 days. How could that be? The baby was alive on one day and the heart stopped beating on the next day. The doctor said that it was unexplainable and that these things sometimes happen for a reason. I miscarried the baby at home and didn't have to do a D&C. We are hoping to try again for another baby soon. I think the hardest thing is that my son is always asking about the baby and he is too young to understand what's going on, and I got to see the baby moving and the heart beating. God makes women to be strong and they can make it through anything. Don't forget to love the children that you may already have as though they are the only ones you have, and live everyday to the fullest. In the end everything will be alright and everything happens for a reason. God bless everyone that has had to have ever experienced a loss like this. Kacy

Answer by MO
Submitted on 3/30/2004
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Here's my story... I just turned 16 years old, and 4 months ago I found out I was pregnant. I was 3 months along my pregnancy, and me and my boyfriend were scared to death. I have always been a very outgoing girl and not very close to my parents. I didn't know what to do, I couldn't tell them. Then one night me and my boyfriend had a fight, so I decided to go to a party with some friends. In the party me and my girl friend only drank water, not knowing the guys had put drugs in it. We got so dumb, i even got to the point of not remembering the rest of the night. My friend says that the guys made me do drugs and they raped her. Then throughout the next week, I started to feel so sick, I also started to spot. Until last week I got very sick, and I called my boyfriend up and told him to take me to the doctor. When we got to the hospital, it took the doctor 2 hours until she could see me. I had my miscarriage in the waiting room bathroom. Having a miscarriage feels horrible, and I am really heart broken. I know I'm too young to have a child, but I have always been against abortion, and I had to take responsibility for my actions. I truly did want to have this baby, but I guess God decided it was to early for us to have one. The only way I think it's possible to heal from such lose, is to let time run it's coarse.

Answer by lil gurl
Submitted on 4/1/2004
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hi, i also know how it feels to lose the most wonderful thing in ur life im only 14 yes i know that is young to be prego but still i was very exicted when i found bout my lil gurl and so was my bf and everything was goin great like most of u and i was two months along maybe three and one night i woke up in the worst pain ever and i called my bf and told him what was wrong so he came over and got me and took me to the ER well the docs told me nuttin was wrong and i should go home and take a nice bath and go back to bed... so i did and i woke up the next morn and i was fine for bout 4 days and on the 5th day i was swimming and i started bleeding really bad so my bf took me to the hosp and i had a d&c done that day and the docs told me i was to young and my body wasnt ready yet so..... for all u teenagers plz if u can prevent it cuz it hurts very badly when u lose a baby and i wish luck to everyone out there who is pregant

Answer by morobbb
Submitted on 4/9/2004
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hello everybody, it makes me very sad to read your stories, but we all have to hope and pray that there is a happy ending to all of them.my husband and i were trying to conceive for about 14 months, when i got pregnant. i was the happiest person in the world.unfortunately my happiness lasted only 2 weeks . i miscarried at 7 weeks. i was devastated and cried for about two months. i blamed my self and couldn'tunderstand the fact that something i had been waiting for over a year was taken away from me so soon. 4 months later we started trying again. i bought ovulation tests and second month of trying i was pregnant again. i couldn'tbelieve the tests worked! I'mnow 10 weeks pregnant and everything is perfect so far. i will never forget my first "baby" it will always be in my heart. so, all i have to say to everybody is to have hope and don't give up.monika

Answer by wendy
Submitted on 4/13/2004
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I had a miscarriage when I was 16yrs old. I was about 6 weeks along and luckily i didn't need a D&C. I know that I wasn't ready to be a mom and so did God. He took my baby home with him. For a while I was so mad at God for taking my baby and letting my 18yr old friend have hers But then I read a poem called "He only takes the best". What got me threw the pain of losing my baby. Out of all the other babies in the whole world that were conceived when mine was he thought my baby was the best and wanted him to be an angel in his kingdom. I am really not saying my baby was better than anyone else's but God thought he was good enough to home with him. If you get the chance to listen to a song called "Jesus has a rocking chair" do it. He is the greatest parent you know. Now I am 19 1/2 weeks and just found out today that I am having a little girl. I thank God every day for the second chance. Keep your head up ladies I may be young but I still know how you all feel. Someday things will get better and just remember Jesus has a rocking chair and he only takes the best.

Answer by Stephanie
Submitted on 4/20/2004
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Here is my story I have a 7 year old daughter and me and my husband decided that it was time to have another one. I found out now in March 2, 2004 that we were going have another one. I was all excited and planning everything and we were hoping it was going to be a boy! Then a few weeks later I started spotting I went to the Dr. and he said no problem I wasn't bleeding from the uterus where the baby was. Maybe just excess blood that needed to come out. Ok a week later I miscarried. I was 9 weeks pregnant and I feel like a part of me left with the baby. I got very depressed and just barely returned to work. The only thing I can tell anyone is I do know what it feels like to have a miscarrage but everyone feels and takes things different. I just hope everyone gets through it and hopefully one day you will have another child and everything goes good. God Bless!

Answer by adriana
Submitted on 4/30/2004
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I was 17 when I got pregnant for the first time. I had a healthy baby girl with no problems at all, and now she's 6yrs. old. Last March '03 I got married and a month later I got pregnant again. We were very excited, @ 6weeks and 5days I started bleeding, I miscarried at 7weeks and 2days. I couldn't understand why I was married now, everything was good and he wanted the baby. So in Nov. '03 I found out I was pregnant again. Well once again I guess it just wasn't meant to be except that this time it happened at 8weeks and 6days, on Christmas Eve. I never thought that it could happen twice in a row. So we decided to wait for a year before trying again. On April 2,2004 my grandfather passed away and it was the hardest thing in world to lose him within the same yr of loosing my babies. But to our surprise I found out,I'm pregnant again. It wasn't what I expected Because I've been so afraid that if I got pregnant I would miscarry again. I'm taking it one day at a time and praying for the best. Tomorrow will make 7wks there's nothing I want more than to give my husband a child of his own but a part of me keeps thinking that it'll never happen. There's nothing you can do to stop a miscarriage from happening I've learned that now, but thinking "maybe there was something I could have done" never goes away. No matter how much you know that it wasn't your fault.

Answer by B Marie
Submitted on 5/3/2004
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My story is no more sad than any other here, but It does me good to tell it anyway, thanks for the chance. To begin with, my body has a high acidic content, that makes it so hard to get pregnant, and then I had an ovarian cyst the size of a small apple, burst inside causing me to be hospitalized and operated on. After that, I tried for 8 years to get pregnant. My first husband and I got a divorce cause he wanted kids and I could not seem to give them to him. After that it was like a manic fever to prove to myself and him that I could have a baby, I wanted one so badly. I married a second time and happily I found myself pregnant the week before our wedding. I went in for my first ultrasound so they could listen for the heartbeat at 9 weeks. They found nothing, and the next evening I miscarried. It was the worst pain I have ever experienced. It has been 3 years since I miscarried and my second husband and I discovered we did better as friends so got a divorce, just tonight, I took a test... I am now 3 weeks pregnant and I am scared to death that I will not carry past 9 weeks just like last time. This was the first time I had had sex with anyone since my divorce 2 years ago. Thanks again for the opportunity to share.. B

Answer by Jay
Submitted on 5/5/2004
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Hi! , My Nick Name is Jay!, I am sorry but whoever the JAY is who wrote this last letter ...I have to talk to you girl! I MUST know your Email address @least! I think this is SO weird but we seem like twins 4-real! I SO feel you girl ...I mean DEAD on. The same thing happend to me but it was the 2nd miscarrage 4 me. I have the same nickname and I just have a feeling about people and I feel that we would click BIG time! I feel that we have been through about the same things in life....How old r u ? PLEASE PLEASE please Email me back when u read this...It doest give me that INFO ...Wish it did but here are mine and hey NEone who thinks that could either be there for me (on the same level) or relate PLEASE Email me! I have been through a lot including miscarrages and I hurt SO bad but yet feel SO very alone & need someone, a freind...Best freind if I am lucky...I hope to hear from ya Jay # 2 (1) or someone that can relate....Laterz , Jay #1 (2) Jaime Coburn 5151 Porsche Dtive Hamilton, Oh 45011 geminiprincezz27@aol.com kaime11@yahoo.com coburnj77@hotmail.com p.s. a baby is what i want most in my life.. im scared it wont happen. This is my GREATEST fear too...I have an 8 eyar old but it is a long story....PlEASE someone (Jay #2 ) Email me if u r like me ... I need someone...Jay , I am Jay too and we seem TO much a like & I REALLY hope u email me ! Answer by jay Submitted on 9/16/2003 Rating: Rate this answer: N/A Worst Weak OK Good Great heres my story. i had my last period back in april. may came around and no period, so me and my husband took a pg test and it was positive. we were so happy. it would be our first baby. on my first dr. visit they did the usuall pap smear and blood draws. everything was good. at 10weeks i had my first ultasound. dr. said everything was still good and he saw the heart beat... i turned 13 weeks and started getting a little worried. i never gained a pound and my body started to fell normal again, but never any blood. my family told me it was all in my head and i worried to much. i hoped they were right. that week at work i started having cramps. went to the dr. and saw a pa. there was no heart beat. she did an ulrasound and the baby didnt look good. i was sent to the hospital for i high teck. ultrasound and transvaginal. they measured the baby at 7 weeks. i just dont understand. my baby died at 7 weeks and the doctor never noticed in the ultasound at 10 weeks. and my body never did bleed. the very next day i had a d&c. me and my husband are tring again, but i cant help being scared it will happen again...a baby is what i want most in my life.. im scared it wont happen.

Answer by Perla
Submitted on 6/4/2004
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i am 19 yr old my life has be terrible with my 4 of my pregnancy the first time i got pregnant i was 17yr old , me and my boyfriend were happy, but when i told my dad he made me go to the clinic to have abortion i was 3 months but i couldn't say no to my dad because i was afraid of him. My second pregnancy i was a month and i had a miscarriage they did a d&c. My third pregnancy happen the same way like the last one. My fourth pregnancy i was 7wk and everything was perfect they saw a heartbeat and the HCG was going up like a normal pregnancy i was so happy because this time i was going to give birth, but my next visit to the doctor they didn't see a heartbeat no more so i was crying and the same day in the night i miscarriages again and i am so depress because today i found out that i have 95 normal chromosome cells and 5 not normal which that means that every time i get pregnant i have 50% that i might have miscarriages every time i get pregnant I am just praying to god that one of these days i could have one normal baby.

Answer by hoping 4 another
Submitted on 6/13/2004
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I was wondering if anyone can relate to my story and possibly give me a realistic out come. When I was 21 I had my first m/c and was told that I may never beable to bear a child to term. when I was 23 I gave birth to an almost 9lb baby boy. The drs were in shock! I was told again that the problibility of another was slim to none at age 25 I had another baby boy! My husband and I had decided 2 years ago to start trying for a girl and call it quits! At age 26 I had a m/c at about 2months I couldn't bear the thought of going through what I went through b 4 my first son was born I didn't want to accept it The drs did not do a dnc they told me everything passed just like my first m/c. well just last year I learned that I was pregant again everything was going great I even got to see my baby on u/s and hear the heart beat my husband and I was soooo happy but then it happened again at 18 weeks it was healthy one day and gone the next I had no cramps or hurting but I just started spotting they told me that was normal!uh the baby's gone is that normal? Now my husband and I have decided to start trying again has any one else had this b 4 and turned out okay?

Answer by Twins
Submitted on 6/29/2004
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Unlike some of the other women who have told there stories here, I had no warning signs of what was to come for me and my twin girls. There was no bleeding or cramping.Every thing was fine . I started getting prenatal care as soon as I found out that I was pregnant. At about 9 weeks I found out that I was having twins.At first I will admit that I felt a little over whelmed at the thought of having two babies at once especially since I have a 18 month old son. But my husband was really excited about the babies and we had began planning our life around the fact that they were coming.Well on Saturday May 1 ,2004 all of that was taken away from me and my husband.One of my water bags broke and when it did I knew deep down inside that it was the end for my babies even though they were in different sacs.I was rushed to the hospital were the doctors immediately told me that there was no hope for either one of my babies because I was only 18 1/2 weeks and they couldn't intervene unless I was 20 weeks. I stayed in the hospital for 3 days and then I was released home to be on bed rest for 6 weeks to try to make it to at least 23 weeks for my baby who's bag was still intact . the next day my husband and I returned to the hospital because while I was using the restroom I noticed a hand coming out of me. I had 8 hours and 35 minutes of labor before I delivered "twin A", my babies who sac broke On the 1st. 2 hours and 30 minutes later I delivered "twin B".I was able to see my girls and I even got to hold them . I was given pictures and the blankets that they were wrapped in but nothing and no one will ever be able to replace my girls. I've always wanted a daughter and I was given two. Why they were taken from me and my husband I will never know.There was nothing the matter with them they were perfectly healthy. I know because I recieved a copy of the autopsy report.All I do know now is that one day I know that I will see them again and I have to think of it as if they were to great of a gift to enter this world here with us . They've automatically went back to the #1 source. I even asked God why did he even let me get pregnant at all to have my girls taken away. It kind of seems like a cruel joke. But deep down inside I know it had to happen this way probably to make me a better parent to my daughters when do have them and to love and cherish my son that I have with my husband now.

Answer by kimberley
Submitted on 8/4/2004
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i would firstly like to say that i am so sorry for the pain that you have been through, i am 24 yrs old and i have also been through a lot of pain, my daughter will be 6 in oct and my little boy was 4 in april, i am divorced and have beed since i was 21, in 2001 i thought that i was pregnant but it turned out that i had court an STI off my ex i couldn't believe it i didnt sleep around but i found out he did (he has 12 children to this day)he has cost me so much pain. I have meet this great guy and we want a new addtion to the famliy, today i found out that i was pregnant but that i have also lost my baby. the doc can't say why because he dose not know, i am heathy fit not over weight so why did it happen? was it a normal miscarriage or was it because of an STI? i know that i shouldn't complain i have 2 wondreful children, i feel so empty at this moment in time, i am scared of trying again, of feeling like this, will i ever fall pregnant again? has being a silly teenager cost me for the rest of my life? all i see at the moment is pregnant women, new born babies, and it hurts to think that i have miscarred and that i might never be able to add a new addtion. i hope that if any one readsthis that they know where i am coming from or that they under stand or even if someone takes note

Answer by chevy
Submitted on 8/20/2004
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I am so sorry to everyone out there who has lost a baby. I have 20 month old little boy named brayden. although I had him just before I turned 19, he and I are a great mother/son team. He brings light into my life everytime he looks at me. I met my fiance when Brayden was just six weeks old. He has been a great father to brayden and thinks of him as his own. When we found out that we were pregnant, it was so exciting because not only was his sister pregnant, but also my best friend who had her son the same time I had mine. At my first appt. the doc said he was sorry but they couldn't find a heartbeat. I didn't believe them. I had 3 more sonograms hoping that they were wrong. but I finally had to except that my baby was gone. But I found that when I wrote to her in the journal I was keeping for her to read one day, it made me feel a sense of closure and it helped me to realize that something that was growing inside of me, is in heaven right now watching over her daddy and brother and I making sure that everything is okay. The miscarriage actually brought us closer in a weird way. Not that I am hoping for another one. But I know that one day, we will have more children and if not, we will adopt. There are plenty of babies who need homes so if you are pregnant and scared, consider this...you have a blessing from God growing in you right now, and God knows what he has planned. Your baby is special no matter what anyone tells you. And when you see that tiny face for the first time, you will know that no matter what, for the rest of your life, you will have that beautifull perfect little face to look at and I promise you, it will always cheer you up. Good luck to you all. don't give up!

Answer by jesse
Submitted on 10/6/2004
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july14 was the last time i got my period.i felt sick for about two weeks so thats when i took a pg test and it was positive.so that friday i saw the doctor he said that i was about 11wks and 3 dys.so when he did the pap test he notice that i was bleeding.so he sends me home telling me not to have intercourse then gave me some medicine(iron,vitamines)and also said anymore bleeding go to the er.i have a appointment monday.the weekend went by just some light spotting. monday went to the doc they gave me an ultrasound could not find anything they said dont worrie.that night i felt a little cramping then blood started coming down more then a period.thats when i new that somthing was wrong.so my husban took me to the er they could not find anything said that i was having a miscarriage they sent me home.next day had appointment.doc did a pap test bleding to much he send me to the emergency room.i feel like he was the only one who realy helped me.went to the er they did a dc went home that night.i thank my husban who stood by me the whole time that i was in the doctors and took my crap.i love u baby.in april 21,2005 my baby would have been born.everything is done for a reason,and i just want that the lord help us when we try again.

Answer by shell
Submitted on 10/19/2004
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My fiance already has 2 children to his first wife,so when we found out that i was pregnant we where both delighted.I went to my doctor who made me an appointment with a mid wife and i was just so excited about learning about our baby.The mid wife couldnt see me straight away because she was going on holiday for 2 weeks,but I was booked into see her as soon as she got back - but it didnt happen,I miscarried before i even got to see her.i was approx 7 weeks.i was getting ready for work one sat morning and i started to bleed very lightly.i knew something was wrong.i phoned the doctors surgery and just got passesed from pillar to post.i didnt get to see anyone til the monday morning,by then i had worked out for myself what had happened.i spent alot of time crying and being comforted by my fiance.i bled for almost a week and it became heavy.i felt like every time i went to the toilet i was just flushing my baby down the loo.i was horrible to my fiance saying that he already had 2 kids so he couldnt complain.even tho i knew i was hurting him thats how i felt,he had something i didnt.its now been 3 months and i obviously still sit and have a little weep but my fiance is always there for me.we are now planning our wedding for nxt yr.wer getting married in cyprus and are going to try and start a family after that.i will be scared incase it happens again,but i try not to think about it to much because i only end up upsetting my partner as much as myself.all i can do is look on the possitive side and unitil i fall pregnant again - why worry?

Answer by Jeanette
Submitted on 10/19/2004
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I just wanted to let (grace_fun21@msn.com) know that it's okay to talk to your mother. While you are both hurting over her loss, you may be able to help her cope, as well as have her help you. Talking about it together may help you both get through this trying time. What she needs is someone who cares, and so do you. SO be there for each other, I promise, she is sad wether you talk to her about it or not, and talking about it together may make you both feel alot better. Try counseling together too. I am 24 years old and pregnant with my third child. Sadly my second did not make it. I miscarried at 2 weeks. My husband and I have a beautiful little girl, and I am now 6 months pregnant with another child. Don't give up hope. Never lose faith. Everything happens for a reason. I will never forget the child I lost, and will always remember him/her. Good lock to you all. I do have advice for one other person. Nicole, you are seventeen, if you did not want another child you should not be putting yourself in a position to get pregnant. Wishing for a miscarriage when the child is not to blame, in my opinion is something that I am appalled at. You mad the mistake of getting pregnant, why punish the child?. I know this sounds harsh, but the child is innocent of your mistakes. Learn to be responsible. As for everyone else, I am so sorry for your loss. My e-mail address is Ladyminaseronus@netscape.net if anyone ever needs to talk. I've been through it with you, and we be glad to offer comfort, advice, or a shoulder to cry on. May god bless you all with the children you deserve.