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What can i do to prevent a miscarrage? adrianeb3@aol.com

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Answer by jay
Submitted on 9/16/2003
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heres my story. i had my last period back in april. may came around and no period, so me and my husband took a pg test and it was positive. we were so happy. it would be our first baby. on my first dr. visit they did the usuall pap smear and blood draws. everything was good. at 10weeks i had my first ultasound. dr. said everything was still good and he saw the heart beat... i turned 13 weeks and started getting a little worried. i never gained a pound and my body started to fell normal again, but never any blood. my family told me it was all in my head and i worried to much. i hoped they were right. that week at work i started having cramps. went to the dr. and saw a pa. there was no heart beat. she did an ulrasound and the baby didnt look good. i was sent to the hospital for i high teck. ultrasound and transvaginal. they measured the baby at 7 weeks. i just dont understand. my baby died at 7 weeks and the doctor never noticed in the ultasound at 10 weeks. and my body never did bleed. the very next day i had a d&c. me and my husband are tring again, but i cant help being scared it will happen again...a baby is what i want most in my life.. im scared it wont happen.

Answer by Sadness
Submitted on 11/6/2003
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I have a daughter who will be 5 next month. We had decided that we wanted another baby. I found out that I was pregnant last August 2002. We were so excited. My pregnancy was great. I had no problems and no pains. I was 19 weeks when we were told that the baby had died. We were devestated. Not only were we told our son was dead we were then told that I had to be induced and would have to deliver him as if he was alive. I was in labor for 28 hours and was in the hospital for 3 days. Life was not real good at that time. It was really difficult to deal with. I have been going to counciling for the past year to help understand all of this. We chose to do testing on the baby to see if there was anything wrong with him. The tests all showed there was nothing. The doctor said that there was a knot in the cord that cut off his oxygen. Well, I found out that I was pregnant this October 2003. We were again so excited. I was scared but told myself that I had to be strong for this baby. I was 6 weeks when I began bleeding. I talked to the doctor and he said don't worry as long as you don't have cramps. So I tried to take him advice. But I knew in my heart that it is not normal to bleed. I have never had it in the past. I was right I had a miscarrage 3 days later. I still never had a cramp the whole time. My only advice is that everyone knows there body. When something is telling you its not right go with your instincts. You are the one who knows best. You cannot do anything to prevent a miscarrage from happening or from your baby dying. All you can do is be causious and aware of what your body is feeling. Also a doctor does not know everything so you cannot always take his word as if it will all go as planned. I was told that there is nothing wrong with me. My doctor said that will never happen to you. Well guess what it did. There is no test that they can do that will tell them if you are at risk. So we are all at risk. We just all have to know that it wasn't anything that any of us did. It is something that unfortunatly just happens.

Answer by sunny
Submitted on 12/10/2003
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I had two misscarrages in a row. that is the most devestating things happan to any woman. first, i was under two months, with first pregnansy. i was shocked. for two years i waited for next pg. Butttt.. that happened again and more more worst than ever. For two days i was bleeding and no doctor helped me even when I got to the hospital, while i was bleeding so badly and pain, they sent me home until mondy the day doctor can be avilable. that is rediculous!!! in the way out I vomited and fainted , I felt down. the nurse retuned me to the room. finally they changed their mind & decided to keep me and find a doctor on call. after horrible hours and D&C done, they released me again. I came home, but so upset of doctors ,they charge us so expensive while they cann'tdo nothing or they don't know. I blame most OBG doctors they most do bussines not medicare. they are evils.

Answer by Jess
Submitted on 1/17/2004
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I had a miscarriage last June 2003, exactly 8 weeks. I am 4 weeks along now Jan. 2004 and am very nervous about the situation. I didn't have a d&c, I let it go natural because I didn't want to take a chance and maybe a miracle happening and the baby be fine, but it happened, and it was extremely painful. Like everyone else on here has said there is nothing you can do to prevent it unfortunately. But if it does happen just know that it is God watching over you and letting you know that there is something wrong with the baby or it wasn't meant to be at that time. That's how I got through it, just put your trust in God. He will never do you wrong. I just hope that everything works out this time. And good luck to everyone else. I fell your pain.

Answer by Stacey
Submitted on 1/18/2004
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I am so sorry to hear of everyones loss! I know how devastating it is, and its somthing that stays with you forever. Sadly i had a M/C on the 30th of October 03, i was 13 weeks pregnant,and a happy mum to be. Everything seemed to be going smoothly, apart from the odd menstral like cramps i kept getting, i was told this was normal, just growing pains. On oct 30th i had my very first dating scan, i was extremly nervous sitting in the waiting room with my partner, I just felt there was somthing not quite right. when the sonagrapher scanned my belly i could see there was no baby, she said the baby could be hiding, so she would have to do an internal, BUT still no little baby in there, i had what is called a blighted ovum, where the baby stops growing at conception, what remains is a growing sac and placenta. That night i m/c naturally from the stress of knowing my baby died. Again i am so sorry for everyones loss, i know now there is nothing really you can do to prevent m/c, except from the very obvious, dont smoke, dont drink, dont go on fast fair ground rides and so on.. I wish you all the best of luck, and i also symphasize for many other people in the future who read this board and have had a m/c! Baby dust to you all. xxxx

Answer by maria
Submitted on 1/21/2004
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While I also have had a miscarriage, and an 11 year old son, I think I am pregnant now. While your body may miscarry, it is determining whether the baby is healthy and fit. "Survival of the fitest"... whether this is the factor of determining a retarded, nonfunctional baby to be... it is nature's way of providing the healthiest to our species. Tips... take your vitamins, Folic Acid is used for the development of the notochord, which leads to the development of the spinal cord and brain. If this one factor alone is not implanted within your fetus it may cause it to abort. I see that most of the miscarriages happened later in development, so maybe this is what may help to prevent it.

Answer by Brandie
Submitted on 1/24/2004
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When i was 17 i found out that i was pregnant. Like many teenage girls now a days i was wild. my mother and i weren't very close. I was excited about being a mom rather than some my age. I got up the nerve and told my mother knowing she would support me. As i thought she did and i started planning for my new arrival, never even having the thought of a miscarrage cross my mind. i went to my doctors appointments and did all my blood tests. i enrolled in teen parenting classes, i visited with other teen moms to help me understand what a child at my age would do to me mentally....i was bound and determined to become the best mom i could be. 12 weeks into my pregnancy my doctor couldn't find a heart beat in my baby. like most others with this issue he said that the baby just maybe hiding. I went for an internal ultrasound. That day i found out my baby had died 3 weeks prior to my doctors appointment. The nursed said that i should have became very ill, some have even died, because of the bacteria that builds up with a nonliving fetus nesting inside you. then they sent me home for a week before they would preform a d/c on me. I was devastated! Like some other women i have no idea i had lost my baby. i felt pregnant i gained weight, i had no bleeding or cramps at all. after my d/c was preformed i had test ran to see what the problem was...I found out that she had abnormal chromosomes. if i would have carried to full term and delivered i would have had a vegetable for a child. i fell into a deep depression for a few months but i managed to pull myself together and i thank the lord to this day for making me pregnant and letting me experience what i did. it was truly a blessing in disguise because raising a child at 17 can't be easy, let alone one that is handicapped. i have become a lot more responsible, my mother and i have a wonderful fiends ship now, and i get a second chance at growing up making my life successful. i hope to all you teenage girls who think it will never happen to you...you understand i thought the same way. It can happen and it did happen to me. Be responsible and i know u are going to have sex no matter what anyone says but please wear protection and remember my story. if u think being a teen is hard...try doing what i had to do.

Answer by Melissa
Submitted on 1/28/2004
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I have a 2 year old daughter, and currently am 14 weeks pregnant. Prior to this pregnancy I had 2 misscarrages. It was a very scary and heartbreaking thing to happen to me. I didn't know what I was doing wrong and why this was happening to me. I had a healthy pregnancy with my daughter. Why was I having complications now? I relized that some things are just meant to be. Going through these misscarrages just made me more determined to have another child. I have been really paranoid about this pregnancy, but I have carried this child longer than the two previous pregnancys. It helps if you do not do anything to stressful to your body, don't drink or smoke. Smoking increases you chance of misscarrige by 10%. My prayers go out to all of you.

Answer by Rose
Submitted on 2/5/2004
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Sadly there is nothing anyone can do to prevent a miscarriage. The only being that has any control over a m/c is God. Something we have to also remember is a m/c is not a punishment. I am 23, I have a 1yr old and found out I was pregnant. I had some spotting but was told that is normal, my body's way of preparing for this new life. I was 6 weeks along when I found out I was pregnant. At 7 weeks I had my first doc appointment. He confirmed it, I was indeed pregnant. He set me up two weeks later for an ultra sound. I never made it to the appointment. Just 2 days ago, I miscarried. It is the hardest thing I have ever been through. I thought I was the reason this baby had died. Did I eat something wrong, turn wrong. what did I do. My husband and I were devastated. We finally realized later that day, that this baby, Morgan, was one of the greatest gifts God could give me. I realized this baby never had to feel pain. This baby was in a safer place than what anyone could ever provide for a child. Our Morgan was with God. Through our beliefs, We believe, we will never be given something we can not handle. Things happen for a reason, We may never realize the reason, but one day hopefully we will all find it. I am sorry for everyone who has felt this kind pain.

Answer by Kitty
Submitted on 2/7/2004
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I have read through all of your stories. I would like to share mine. I had my first child at 19yrs.old. I got pregnant again shortly after that with twins. But do to physical abuse from my husband I delivered them to early and because the technology was not what it is today they died soon afterward. Needless to say I divorced my first husband. When my daughter was 7yrs. old. I met and married my present husband. We have been married now for 18yrs. We have had one living child and as of yesterday 10 pregnancies lost. I have cried and been deeply depressed over our losses. But through faith I pray that we will be blessed with one last child. If I can go through this my dear sisters, rest assured you can to. No each time does not make it any easier, but faith and prayer in our Heavenly Father will allow all of you to keep on trying. Love to you all, and keep the faith.

Answer by kacyjoy
Submitted on 2/10/2004
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I am a 29 year old mother of a wonderful 2 1/2 yr. old son. In Nov. 2003 my husband and I found out that I was pregnant for our second child. We were so happy. Jagger my son was excited, he was going to be a big brother. Shortly before my 1st doctor visit I started spotting very lightly. I called the office and the nurse told me that this was common. So I figured it was normal. I had never spotted for my son. The spotting never stopped and got a little darker pink. On Jan. 19, 2004 I went to the doctor for my 1st ultra sound. I saw my baby moving and flipping and the heart was beating strongly. The ultrasound tech made me a video and printed me some pictures to show my husband and my son. On the following week I started to spot heavier. I called the doctors office,and the nurse assured me once more that this was OK and for me not to worry. Then on the 2nd week after my ultrasound the spotting turned into bleeding.I was horrified. I started to realize the I wasn't feeling pregnant anymore, and my breast weren't tender or sore. I called the doctor and they wanted to see me right away. My husband and I went into the ultrasound room and the ultrasound tech revealed to us that our baby had died. I was crushed and very angry at the doctor and nurses for telling me that everything was OK all those times that I had called. Then the doctor told us that the baby had died the day after we had done our 1st ultrasound. On the day of our 1st ultrasound the baby was 10 week and 5 days, and 3 weeks after the ultrasound the baby was only 10 weeks and 6 days. How could that be? The baby was alive on one day and the heart stopped beating on the next day. The doctor said that it was unexplainable and that these things sometimes happen for a reason. I miscarried the baby at home and didn't have to do a D&C. We are hoping to try again for another baby soon. I think the hardest thing is that my son is always asking about the baby and he is too young to understand what's going on, and I got to see the baby moving and the heart beating. God makes women to be strong and they can make it through anything. Don't forget to love the children that you may already have as though they are the only ones you have, and live everyday to the fullest. In the end everything will be alright and everything happens for a reason. God bless everyone that has had to have ever experienced a loss like this. Kacy

Answer by MO
Submitted on 3/30/2004
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Here's my story... I just turned 16 years old, and 4 months ago I found out I was pregnant. I was 3 months along my pregnancy, and me and my boyfriend were scared to death. I have always been a very outgoing girl and not very close to my parents. I didn't know what to do, I couldn't tell them. Then one night me and my boyfriend had a fight, so I decided to go to a party with some friends. In the party me and my girl friend only drank water, not knowing the guys had put drugs in it. We got so dumb, i even got to the point of not remembering the rest of the night. My friend says that the guys made me do drugs and they raped her. Then throughout the next week, I started to feel so sick, I also started to spot. Until last week I got very sick, and I called my boyfriend up and told him to take me to the doctor. When we got to the hospital, it took the doctor 2 hours until she could see me. I had my miscarriage in the waiting room bathroom. Having a miscarriage feels horrible, and I am really heart broken. I know I'm too young to have a child, but I have always been against abortion, and I had to take responsibility for my actions. I truly did want to have this baby, but I guess God decided it was to early for us to have one. The only way I think it's possible to heal from such lose, is to let time run it's coarse.

Answer by lil gurl
Submitted on 4/1/2004
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hi, i also know how it feels to lose the most wonderful thing in ur life im only 14 yes i know that is young to be prego but still i was very exicted when i found bout my lil gurl and so was my bf and everything was goin great like most of u and i was two months along maybe three and one night i woke up in the worst pain ever and i called my bf and told him what was wrong so he came over and got me and took me to the ER well the docs told me nuttin was wrong and i should go home and take a nice bath and go back to bed... so i did and i woke up the next morn and i was fine for bout 4 days and on the 5th day i was swimming and i started bleeding really bad so my bf took me to the hosp and i had a d&c done that day and the docs told me i was to young and my body wasnt ready yet so..... for all u teenagers plz if u can prevent it cuz it hurts very badly when u lose a baby and i wish luck to everyone out there who is pregant

Answer by morobbb
Submitted on 4/9/2004
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hello everybody, it makes me very sad to read your stories, but we all have to hope and pray that there is a happy ending to all of them.my husband and i were trying to conceive for about 14 months, when i got pregnant. i was the happiest person in the world.unfortunately my happiness lasted only 2 weeks . i miscarried at 7 weeks. i was devastated and cried for about two months. i blamed my self and couldn'tunderstand the fact that something i had been waiting for over a year was taken away from me so soon. 4 months later we started trying again. i bought ovulation tests and second month of trying i was pregnant again. i couldn'tbelieve the tests worked! I'mnow 10 weeks pregnant and everything is perfect so far. i will never forget my first "baby" it will always be in my heart. so, all i have to say to everybody is to have hope and don't give up.monika

Answer by wendy
Submitted on 4/13/2004
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I had a miscarriage when I was 16yrs old. I was about 6 weeks along and luckily i didn't need a D&C. I know that I wasn't ready to be a mom and so did God. He took my baby home with him. For a while I was so mad at God for taking my baby and letting my 18yr old friend have hers But then I read a poem called "He only takes the best". What got me threw the pain of losing my baby. Out of all the other babies in the whole world that were conceived when mine was he thought my baby was the best and wanted him to be an angel in his kingdom. I am really not saying my baby was better than anyone else's but God thought he was good enough to home with him. If you get the chance to listen to a song called "Jesus has a rocking chair" do it. He is the greatest parent you know. Now I am 19 1/2 weeks and just found out today that I am having a little girl. I thank God every day for the second chance. Keep your head up ladies I may be young but I still know how you all feel. Someday things will get better and just remember Jesus has a rocking chair and he only takes the best.

Answer by Stephanie
Submitted on 4/20/2004
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Here is my story I have a 7 year old daughter and me and my husband decided that it was time to have another one. I found out now in March 2, 2004 that we were going have another one. I was all excited and planning everything and we were hoping it was going to be a boy! Then a few weeks later I started spotting I went to the Dr. and he said no problem I wasn't bleeding from the uterus where the baby was. Maybe just excess blood that needed to come out. Ok a week later I miscarried. I was 9 weeks pregnant and I feel like a part of me left with the baby. I got very depressed and just barely returned to work. The only thing I can tell anyone is I do know what it feels like to have a miscarrage but everyone feels and takes things different. I just hope everyone gets through it and hopefully one day you will have another child and everything goes good. God Bless!

Answer by adriana
Submitted on 4/30/2004
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I was 17 when I got pregnant for the first time. I had a healthy baby girl with no problems at all, and now she's 6yrs. old. Last March '03 I got married and a month later I got pregnant again. We were very excited, @ 6weeks and 5days I started bleeding, I miscarried at 7weeks and 2days. I couldn't understand why I was married now, everything was good and he wanted the baby. So in Nov. '03 I found out I was pregnant again. Well once again I guess it just wasn't meant to be except that this time it happened at 8weeks and 6days, on Christmas Eve. I never thought that it could happen twice in a row. So we decided to wait for a year before trying again. On April 2,2004 my grandfather passed away and it was the hardest thing in world to lose him within the same yr of loosing my babies. But to our surprise I found out,I'm pregnant again. It wasn't what I expected Because I've been so afraid that if I got pregnant I would miscarry again. I'm taking it one day at a time and praying for the best. Tomorrow will make 7wks there's nothing I want more than to give my husband a child of his own but a part of me keeps thinking that it'll never happen. There's nothing you can do to stop a miscarriage from happening I've learned that now, but thinking "maybe there was something I could have done" never goes away. No matter how much you know that it wasn't your fault.

Answer by B Marie
Submitted on 5/3/2004
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My story is no more sad than any other here, but It does me good to tell it anyway, thanks for the chance. To begin with, my body has a high acidic content, that makes it so hard to get pregnant, and then I had an ovarian cyst the size of a small apple, burst inside causing me to be hospitalized and operated on. After that, I tried for 8 years to get pregnant. My first husband and I got a divorce cause he wanted kids and I could not seem to give them to him. After that it was like a manic fever to prove to myself and him that I could have a baby, I wanted one so badly. I married a second time and happily I found myself pregnant the week before our wedding. I went in for my first ultrasound so they could listen for the heartbeat at 9 weeks. They found nothing, and the next evening I miscarried. It was the worst pain I have ever experienced. It has been 3 years since I miscarried and my second husband and I discovered we did better as friends so got a divorce, just tonight, I took a test... I am now 3 weeks pregnant and I am scared to death that I will not carry past 9 weeks just like last time. This was the first time I had had sex with anyone since my divorce 2 years ago. Thanks again for the opportunity to share.. B

Answer by Jay
Submitted on 5/5/2004
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Hi! , My Nick Name is Jay!, I am sorry but whoever the JAY is who wrote this last letter ...I have to talk to you girl! I MUST know your Email address @least! I think this is SO weird but we seem like twins 4-real! I SO feel you girl ...I mean DEAD on. The same thing happend to me but it was the 2nd miscarrage 4 me. I have the same nickname and I just have a feeling about people and I feel that we would click BIG time! I feel that we have been through about the same things in life....How old r u ? PLEASE PLEASE please Email me back when u read this...It doest give me that INFO ...Wish it did but here are mine and hey NEone who thinks that could either be there for me (on the same level) or relate PLEASE Email me! I have been through a lot including miscarrages and I hurt SO bad but yet feel SO very alone & need someone, a freind...Best freind if I am lucky...I hope to hear from ya Jay # 2 (1) or someone that can relate....Laterz , Jay #1 (2) Jaime Coburn 5151 Porsche Dtive Hamilton, Oh 45011 geminiprincezz27@aol.com kaime11@yahoo.com coburnj77@hotmail.com p.s. a baby is what i want most in my life.. im scared it wont happen. This is my GREATEST fear too...I have an 8 eyar old but it is a long story....PlEASE someone (Jay #2 ) Email me if u r like me ... I need someone...Jay , I am Jay too and we seem TO much a like & I REALLY hope u email me ! Answer by jay Submitted on 9/16/2003 Rating: Rate this answer: N/A Worst Weak OK Good Great heres my story. i had my last period back in april. may came around and no period, so me and my husband took a pg test and it was positive. we were so happy. it would be our first baby. on my first dr. visit they did the usuall pap smear and blood draws. everything was good. at 10weeks i had my first ultasound. dr. said everything was still good and he saw the heart beat... i turned 13 weeks and started getting a little worried. i never gained a pound and my body started to fell normal again, but never any blood. my family told me it was all in my head and i worried to much. i hoped they were right. that week at work i started having cramps. went to the dr. and saw a pa. there was no heart beat. she did an ulrasound and the baby didnt look good. i was sent to the hospital for i high teck. ultrasound and transvaginal. they measured the baby at 7 weeks. i just dont understand. my baby died at 7 weeks and the doctor never noticed in the ultasound at 10 weeks. and my body never did bleed. the very next day i had a d&c. me and my husband are tring again, but i cant help being scared it will happen again...a baby is what i want most in my life.. im scared it wont happen.

Answer by Perla
Submitted on 6/4/2004
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i am 19 yr old my life has be terrible with my 4 of my pregnancy the first time i got pregnant i was 17yr old , me and my boyfriend were happy, but when i told my dad he made me go to the clinic to have abortion i was 3 months but i couldn't say no to my dad because i was afraid of him. My second pregnancy i was a month and i had a miscarriage they did a d&c. My third pregnancy happen the same way like the last one. My fourth pregnancy i was 7wk and everything was perfect they saw a heartbeat and the HCG was going up like a normal pregnancy i was so happy because this time i was going to give birth, but my next visit to the doctor they didn't see a heartbeat no more so i was crying and the same day in the night i miscarriages again and i am so depress because today i found out that i have 95 normal chromosome cells and 5 not normal which that means that every time i get pregnant i have 50% that i might have miscarriages every time i get pregnant I am just praying to god that one of these days i could have one normal baby.

Answer by hoping 4 another
Submitted on 6/13/2004
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I was wondering if anyone can relate to my story and possibly give me a realistic out come. When I was 21 I had my first m/c and was told that I may never beable to bear a child to term. when I was 23 I gave birth to an almost 9lb baby boy. The drs were in shock! I was told again that the problibility of another was slim to none at age 25 I had another baby boy! My husband and I had decided 2 years ago to start trying for a girl and call it quits! At age 26 I had a m/c at about 2months I couldn't bear the thought of going through what I went through b 4 my first son was born I didn't want to accept it The drs did not do a dnc they told me everything passed just like my first m/c. well just last year I learned that I was pregant again everything was going great I even got to see my baby on u/s and hear the heart beat my husband and I was soooo happy but then it happened again at 18 weeks it was healthy one day and gone the next I had no cramps or hurting but I just started spotting they told me that was normal!uh the baby's gone is that normal? Now my husband and I have decided to start trying again has any one else had this b 4 and turned out okay?

Answer by Twins
Submitted on 6/29/2004
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Unlike some of the other women who have told there stories here, I had no warning signs of what was to come for me and my twin girls. There was no bleeding or cramping.Every thing was fine . I started getting prenatal care as soon as I found out that I was pregnant. At about 9 weeks I found out that I was having twins.At first I will admit that I felt a little over whelmed at the thought of having two babies at once especially since I have a 18 month old son. But my husband was really excited about the babies and we had began planning our life around the fact that they were coming.Well on Saturday May 1 ,2004 all of that was taken away from me and my husband.One of my water bags broke and when it did I knew deep down inside that it was the end for my babies even though they were in different sacs.I was rushed to the hospital were the doctors immediately told me that there was no hope for either one of my babies because I was only 18 1/2 weeks and they couldn't intervene unless I was 20 weeks. I stayed in the hospital for 3 days and then I was released home to be on bed rest for 6 weeks to try to make it to at least 23 weeks for my baby who's bag was still intact . the next day my husband and I returned to the hospital because while I was using the restroom I noticed a hand coming out of me. I had 8 hours and 35 minutes of labor before I delivered "twin A", my babies who sac broke On the 1st. 2 hours and 30 minutes later I delivered "twin B".I was able to see my girls and I even got to hold them . I was given pictures and the blankets that they were wrapped in but nothing and no one will ever be able to replace my girls. I've always wanted a daughter and I was given two. Why they were taken from me and my husband I will never know.There was nothing the matter with them they were perfectly healthy. I know because I recieved a copy of the autopsy report.All I do know now is that one day I know that I will see them again and I have to think of it as if they were to great of a gift to enter this world here with us . They've automatically went back to the #1 source. I even asked God why did he even let me get pregnant at all to have my girls taken away. It kind of seems like a cruel joke. But deep down inside I know it had to happen this way probably to make me a better parent to my daughters when do have them and to love and cherish my son that I have with my husband now.

Answer by kimberley
Submitted on 8/4/2004
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i would firstly like to say that i am so sorry for the pain that you have been through, i am 24 yrs old and i have also been through a lot of pain, my daughter will be 6 in oct and my little boy was 4 in april, i am divorced and have beed since i was 21, in 2001 i thought that i was pregnant but it turned out that i had court an STI off my ex i couldn't believe it i didnt sleep around but i found out he did (he has 12 children to this day)he has cost me so much pain. I have meet this great guy and we want a new addtion to the famliy, today i found out that i was pregnant but that i have also lost my baby. the doc can't say why because he dose not know, i am heathy fit not over weight so why did it happen? was it a normal miscarriage or was it because of an STI? i know that i shouldn't complain i have 2 wondreful children, i feel so empty at this moment in time, i am scared of trying again, of feeling like this, will i ever fall pregnant again? has being a silly teenager cost me for the rest of my life? all i see at the moment is pregnant women, new born babies, and it hurts to think that i have miscarred and that i might never be able to add a new addtion. i hope that if any one readsthis that they know where i am coming from or that they under stand or even if someone takes note

Answer by chevy
Submitted on 8/20/2004
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I am so sorry to everyone out there who has lost a baby. I have 20 month old little boy named brayden. although I had him just before I turned 19, he and I are a great mother/son team. He brings light into my life everytime he looks at me. I met my fiance when Brayden was just six weeks old. He has been a great father to brayden and thinks of him as his own. When we found out that we were pregnant, it was so exciting because not only was his sister pregnant, but also my best friend who had her son the same time I had mine. At my first appt. the doc said he was sorry but they couldn't find a heartbeat. I didn't believe them. I had 3 more sonograms hoping that they were wrong. but I finally had to except that my baby was gone. But I found that when I wrote to her in the journal I was keeping for her to read one day, it made me feel a sense of closure and it helped me to realize that something that was growing inside of me, is in heaven right now watching over her daddy and brother and I making sure that everything is okay. The miscarriage actually brought us closer in a weird way. Not that I am hoping for another one. But I know that one day, we will have more children and if not, we will adopt. There are plenty of babies who need homes so if you are pregnant and scared, consider this...you have a blessing from God growing in you right now, and God knows what he has planned. Your baby is special no matter what anyone tells you. And when you see that tiny face for the first time, you will know that no matter what, for the rest of your life, you will have that beautifull perfect little face to look at and I promise you, it will always cheer you up. Good luck to you all. don't give up!

Answer by jesse
Submitted on 10/6/2004
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july14 was the last time i got my period.i felt sick for about two weeks so thats when i took a pg test and it was positive.so that friday i saw the doctor he said that i was about 11wks and 3 dys.so when he did the pap test he notice that i was bleeding.so he sends me home telling me not to have intercourse then gave me some medicine(iron,vitamines)and also said anymore bleeding go to the er.i have a appointment monday.the weekend went by just some light spotting. monday went to the doc they gave me an ultrasound could not find anything they said dont worrie.that night i felt a little cramping then blood started coming down more then a period.thats when i new that somthing was wrong.so my husban took me to the er they could not find anything said that i was having a miscarriage they sent me home.next day had appointment.doc did a pap test bleding to much he send me to the emergency room.i feel like he was the only one who realy helped me.went to the er they did a dc went home that night.i thank my husban who stood by me the whole time that i was in the doctors and took my crap.i love u baby.in april 21,2005 my baby would have been born.everything is done for a reason,and i just want that the lord help us when we try again.

Answer by shell
Submitted on 10/19/2004
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My fiance already has 2 children to his first wife,so when we found out that i was pregnant we where both delighted.I went to my doctor who made me an appointment with a mid wife and i was just so excited about learning about our baby.The mid wife couldnt see me straight away because she was going on holiday for 2 weeks,but I was booked into see her as soon as she got back - but it didnt happen,I miscarried before i even got to see her.i was approx 7 weeks.i was getting ready for work one sat morning and i started to bleed very lightly.i knew something was wrong.i phoned the doctors surgery and just got passesed from pillar to post.i didnt get to see anyone til the monday morning,by then i had worked out for myself what had happened.i spent alot of time crying and being comforted by my fiance.i bled for almost a week and it became heavy.i felt like every time i went to the toilet i was just flushing my baby down the loo.i was horrible to my fiance saying that he already had 2 kids so he couldnt complain.even tho i knew i was hurting him thats how i felt,he had something i didnt.its now been 3 months and i obviously still sit and have a little weep but my fiance is always there for me.we are now planning our wedding for nxt yr.wer getting married in cyprus and are going to try and start a family after that.i will be scared incase it happens again,but i try not to think about it to much because i only end up upsetting my partner as much as myself.all i can do is look on the possitive side and unitil i fall pregnant again - why worry?

Answer by Jeanette
Submitted on 10/19/2004
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I just wanted to let (grace_fun21@msn.com) know that it's okay to talk to your mother. While you are both hurting over her loss, you may be able to help her cope, as well as have her help you. Talking about it together may help you both get through this trying time. What she needs is someone who cares, and so do you. SO be there for each other, I promise, she is sad wether you talk to her about it or not, and talking about it together may make you both feel alot better. Try counseling together too. I am 24 years old and pregnant with my third child. Sadly my second did not make it. I miscarried at 2 weeks. My husband and I have a beautiful little girl, and I am now 6 months pregnant with another child. Don't give up hope. Never lose faith. Everything happens for a reason. I will never forget the child I lost, and will always remember him/her. Good lock to you all. I do have advice for one other person. Nicole, you are seventeen, if you did not want another child you should not be putting yourself in a position to get pregnant. Wishing for a miscarriage when the child is not to blame, in my opinion is something that I am appalled at. You mad the mistake of getting pregnant, why punish the child?. I know this sounds harsh, but the child is innocent of your mistakes. Learn to be responsible. As for everyone else, I am so sorry for your loss. My e-mail address is Ladyminaseronus@netscape.net if anyone ever needs to talk. I've been through it with you, and we be glad to offer comfort, advice, or a shoulder to cry on. May god bless you all with the children you deserve.

Answer by Jen
Submitted on 12/6/2004
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We can not control our bodies once they have decided what to do with what is going on inside of it, it will happen. My advice; Take care of yourself, depression does play a part in miscarriage, try to look at life each day as a new day, and don't stress on things you can not change, just do the best that you can to live each day. I have 5 children, I always wanted 10, but I have had 2 miscarriages within a year. I am still searching for answers to why, but I know that the Creator(God) is in control of everything. You can do something to help prevent a miscarriage: Have hcg, estrogen and progesterone levels checked regularly in your pregnancy, have chromosomes checked before you get pregnant, eat well, don't drink alcohol or smoke, there are test that can be done from your blood to see if infection, or other problems are occurring. I learned the hard way that we do know our bodies and we can tell if there is something not normal. We chose our Drs. to help us through our pregnancy, they need to be concerned when we feel concerned, that is what they are paid for. I am going to try again because there is a void that needs to be filled. I am thankful for God, because I am taking this one day at a time with Him. I know this past year I didn't have a good relationship with my husband and I was depressed, but my last miscarriage made our relationship so much better. We are going to do this together this time and I feel very good about the outcome because he does too!

Answer by Mandy
Submitted on 1/9/2005
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I now understand the amount of pain that all of you have gone through. I, myself, just lost a child. Heres what happened to me. My boyfriend and I had discussed the fact that we both wanted children and then proceeded to plan for them and maybe start trying after we had our lives in complete order. I had just gotten out of an unhappy marriage to Ben and felt that with him there was no hope for children, so when Aaron came along and we began dating, it happened to be that one of the first subjects discussed as a couple was children. So began the process of assessing our options as parents. I began praying to God to give me a child, a small miracle to keep me sane. So about 4 months later I felt different and decided to wait for may period to take a test to find out. When no period came I was excited and knew before the test that I was blessed. Of course I was right and the process had began, we were 8 weeks to the day when we found out. Some unfortunate things happened to me in the next couple of months, I was in a financial hole and it began to make it difficult to save but luckily Aaron was behind me 100% and save everything he had. Between work and my parents, and my life, I became over stressed and over worked. None the less the joy we felt about our child coming into the world kept us on our toes and helped clear our mind. But the unfortunate happened on December 22, I began to see dark discharge, kind of like dried blood. I called the doctor that morning and gave the situation. They insisted that it was a bladder infection and, like most these women, was told the baby should be fine. By 6pm it went from brown discharge to red blood. I called again and they said that it was normal and to just rest, take a few days off work, and drink lots of water. Well this did not set with me nor Aaron well at all and at 10pm I went to the emergency room to make sure that my baby was OK. I spent 45 minutes getting catheterized for the sonogram and ultrasound. Aaron stayed by my side the entire time with the most worried look on his face. When it was time to wheel me off to the room for the tests they made him stay in the waiting room. I sat in horror as they could not find my baby. No heartbeat. I was in shock. At about 2am they told me that I had lost my child. I was devastated and so was Aaron. There was nothing I could do. We left the hospital hand in hand and drove home where we broke down in sorrow and morning for our child. The next couple of days, Christmas Eve and Christmas Day, was extremely difficult because we hadn't seen all of our relatives after we found out so there were many congratulations then deep regret. This was devastating to our hearts and our families. I passed our child on Christmas Day. My child was 12 weeks when we lost it. We chose to not name it and felt that God had given us an angel to watch us. I was angry with him at first, he had granted a wish, a prayer, and took it from us. Aaron had lost a child before at a young age and knew then that God was telling him and the girl that they were too young. An now that he was older and found someone that was in prospect for a child, he couldn't understand why the loss, why the pain that this brought was necessary. As I laid in bed a few nights ago, Aaron gave me an explanation that he felt that God told him as I slept. He woke me, turned me from my belly to my back and whispered to me when he knew that I was somewhat conscious, "God gave us this child for a short time to let us see ourselves and what we need to change," (During the pregnancy we had some in depth arguments) "He figured we needed to be closer and more in love than we ever thought possible, and I (Aaron) believe that though we were in love emotionally that we needed this to become spiritually in love. We will never stop loving our little baby, but now we have a chance to make what we have become more than just us, we can become a family and work. I believe that this has brought us spiritually together and cant imagine spending my life with no one else." He told me this with tears in his eyes, and believed that God had told him that though we wanted this child that this one was test of love and strength, and that we would be blessed again soon. We will meet our first child in heaven and so will all of you. We are currently trying to let my body recover for now and in about a month start trying again for our second child. Just remember that though it may not happen now that there is hope out there. And if for some reason you find yourself trying and getting nowhere, maybe God wants you to look somewhere else because he has plans for you with a child in other means. I guess there is little you can do but do what it takes to be strong. I see that many of you are young girls, and to you I ask one thing, if its a surprise, assess your future strongly, it can be done there is options and help, and if you are trying to get pregnant and are considered too young, look at what it could change, what future are you looking at, what kind of job can you get without collage or without high school. I'm not going to tell you that it cant be done because 1/3 of the girls in my class drooped out there senior year so they could support their child, but it sure is hard if you don't plan ahead. I hope the best for you all and that you all read this and understand that it may hurt but there is a child somewhere waiting for you in heaven.

Answer by Heather
Submitted on 1/14/2005
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I have read all of your stories and my heart goes out to you all. I myself have been through the loss of a child, my first and so far only child. June of 2001 when I was just 17 I found out I was pregnant after having tried with my boyfriend at the time for six months. I know I was young but I felt in my heart that I was ready to become a mom. I like most of you got right on the ball with getting prenatal care, and taking care of my body and my growing baby. Eating only the healthiest foods, no caffeine and no alcohol. My first visit was at 11 weeks into my pregnancy where they told me everything was fine. My story is a little different that the rest though. My pregnancy was wonderful all along. I had an ultrasound done at 18 weeks and everything was great, but they told me it was too early to tell the sex of the baby. At 38 weeks I had what I thought were labor contractions and went to the ER. The nurses hooked me up the monitors and I was told that it was false labor but the baby was fine and had a very healthy heart beat. I was dilated to 4 and the baby was fully dropped. The only thing even slightly wrong was that I had a +3 protein level which they monitored with urine samples that I had to deliver back to the hospital later that week. The following Monday night my babies father and I got into an argument and he left my home. Two hours later I went into labor with contractions 2 minutes apart. My mother and I rushed to the hospital for the delivery of her first grandchild. When I got the the hospital they hooked me up to the monitors like they had a week before only this time it was different. They tried for 45 minutes to find a heartbeat and couldn't find one. I knew then that something was wrong. They then rushed in an emergency ultrasound where we saw the baby and there was no heartbeat. Somehow she had died that day because earlier that day i had felt her moving and kicking. They gave me the option of a natural birth or c-section. I chose to have her naturally because this was my first child and I wanted to know what birth would be like for my next child. I had no meds besides the shot to make labor faster and a shot of morphine 10 minutes before i delivered. I was in labor a total of 8 hours. At 5:03am Tuesday February 19, 2002 I delivered a beautiful 9lb 8 oz baby girl with no heartbeat. I chose to name her Elizabeth Grace and keep her with me for 24 hours. I held her, put clothes on her and took 7 rolls of pictures. Family and friends came to see her and held her. The nurses came in and told me that she was the most beautiful baby they had ever seen. She looked like a sleeping porcelain doll. The hospital was great. The following morning I had to undress her and send her away to have a autopsy at my request. Knowing that i had done nothing wrong and how well developed she was I was determined to find out what went wrong. We had her cremated, an obituary with photo printed in the local paper and a memorial service for her. 72 people came to her memorial, some I didn't even know, it was very comforting to see that people cared. The autopsy results 4 months later in June showed that there was a bacterial Infection in the placenta and umbilical cord. I knew that I did nothing wrong but just knowing those results eased my mind even more. I of course was very depressed for a very long time. I watched all my friends give birth to beautiful healthy living babies after drinking and smoking and not caring. I was left with the question, "why did the baby I wanted so badly die and the babies my friends didn't care to have survive"? But I know that it was best this way and I am glad that if it had to happen it happened when it did and not a month or two later or earlier because unlike most of you I got to experience birth and holding her and checking her for birthmarks and family resemblance. I am now 21 and I still miss her everyday. The pain never goes away it just gets a little easier to deal with after time. She is with me everyday day. Her father and I have split up since then and he and his new wife just had there first baby. A daughter named Sierra Marie, a name that I had on the list of names we had picked out for Elizabeth. Finding that out plus that fact that she resembles Elizabeth to a T has been extremely hard to cope with lately. He was very abusive and controlling while we were together and knowing that he has what I want more than anything and got taken away is extremely hard to cope with. But I am strong and life goes on and I am now with a wonderful man that treats me like a queen. Just last week we are pretty sure I had a miscarriage, it was extremely painful and more blood than I have ever seen, it lasted 12 days. I am coping with this now knowing that at the moment I am not financially stable enough to have a child. But I know in my heart that it will happen when the time is right. My advice to you all is that you don't drink, smoke,or have caffeine, and just eat as healthy as you can so that if it happens (god forbid that), at least you know it was nothing you did. I also recommend that you see your baby if your far enough along in your pregnancy, take photos, you may not want to see them at first but more than likely after time you will have questions about his/her looks and you then will have something to help you through. Once again, my heart goes out to all of you and I wish you all luck with the future. Feel free to e-mail me at naughtybutnice1022@hotmail.com ~heather

Answer by Beth
Submitted on 1/15/2005
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I want to start by saying that I am so sorry for everyone's loss. I was 17 when I became pregnant with my son. He was born healthy or so we thought. He is now 4 and has been diagnosed with autism, Severe Sensory Integration disorder,Severe speech delays and Severe gross motor delays. Since my son was born I have had three miscarriages and even though I was devastated about the outcome of those pregnancies I know through testing that each of those babies would have had multiple horrible devastating birth defects. Miscarriages are Gods way of not letting his children suffer. I mourn the loss of my children but I see the struggles my son deals with everyday and would not wish them on any of my children. I would much rather have my children up in heaven waiting for the right time to come into my life rather than be here now with me struggling to survive having no quality of life. Miscarriages are horrible and awful to have to endure but take comfort in knowing that God has a plan for everything. So for all of you who has experienced a loss I am so sorry. Trust in God and know that your little angels will come into this world when the time is right. Good luck to everyone, And I wish you all happy healthy babies.

Answer by Sweetie
Submitted on 1/25/2005
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hi everyone. Everyone calls me Sweetie, i was 15 when i got preganat, and im still 15 now. My ex- boyfriend and i had sex and the condom broke,and u no the rest. The next day i went to a clinic and got the morning after pill. i thought it worked, but it really didnt. I ate alot, drank a lot of water, and everything. I had no idea i was preganant. One night i was on the phone with friends. Ithought to myself my period has come, im not preganant, but blood kept coming, and when i was in the bathroom a sac came out of me. I didnt want my mother to no so i flushed it down the tiolet,not knowin that that was my baby.After that happened i was sick for 2 days straight.I went to a doctor and he ran some blood tests and when I came back for the results thats when he told me that I was preganant. I had no clue, gained no weight or anything. Since that day Iink about my baby everyday, if it was a boy or girl, what he or she would look like. A bunch of questions went to thorough my head. I no I am to young to be a mother but I would give everything up to have my baby now, I miss him or her and I love them, and wish they were here.My heart go's out to all the women that is trying to have a baby right now.

Answer by EllieWellie
Submitted on 3/8/2005
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Hiya Ladies, I thought I'd contribute our stories of M/C in the hope that one of you will benefit from my experience and the hope that life certainly can go on afterwards. Just 6 weeks of having met my, now husband we discovered we were pregnant. Everything went fine, I had an ultrasound at 12 weeks, the baby's heartbeat was picked up and was strong. Everything seemed fine with the baby at this point, we could make out little arms and feet and even see the outline of the baby's face clearly on the scan. 3 weeks later I had heavy bleeding so we went straight over the hospital. It was a sunday afternoon so the main ultrasound department was closed. The doctor I seen performed a scan with a mobile ultrasound unit, and explained that they werent as good as the normal equipment they would use. The doc was unable to determine wether I had miscarried or not. When they had a look internally with a speculum, my doc reassured me when she said that there was a legion on my cervix and possibly that the bleeding was coming from there. I was sent home to return the monday for a proper scan. This revealled no heartbeat. We were shattered. They said that it was a missed miscarriage, that the baby had died but my body had failed to expell the baby. I had to return later in the week to take the mifepristone tablet that would set things moving, I would then return for another tablet and vaginal pessary late on in the week. I didn't get to the point of returning for the 2nd tablet and nature took its course. I haemorraged in the hospital and thought I was dying. It was horrific. When they did the tests on my baby boy no reason was found for the M/C, the baby died at about 10 weeks. Friends and family told me their stories of miscarriage, three of them each had multiple miscarriages and assured me I would be fine next time. Even knowing my friend had 4 miscarriages didn't make things any better, so I know that no matter how common this is and how many people share their experiences it doesn't make the pain any less. We decided that we would try again and after 2 1/2 years of trying I fell pregnant again. This time though I didn't 'feel pregnant' I had really bad morning sickness with my first pregnancy but very little in the way of signs this time. I started bleeding at 8 weeks, before I had chance to have an ultrasound. I went to the hospital, again on a sunday, where they carried out a standard pregnancy test, which showed positive. My scan had been due the coming wednesday, only a couple of days ago so I returned home hopefull that things would be fine. The bleeding this time was very light and begin to stop after a couple of hours. When I went for the scan, there was no baby, a blighted ovum they call it. Conception had happened but the baby never started to grow. We were gutted, again. I found out that we were preggie again after a year and a half just before christmas and so far so good. Having two miscarriages prior to this I was sent for an early scan at 6 weeks. Waiting for the day to come was torture, but lo and behold, at 6 weeks I went for a scan and there was our baby, and a heartbeat fluttering away. Things were good, morning sickness was all day sickness and I felt pregnant. My next scan was due at 14 weeks, and again, I was a bundle of nerves. All went fine though, and I was starting to feel that things were looking good, and it finally began to sink in that we had a baby on the way. I'm nearly 19 weeks now, and still worry about wether I will miscarry, but I've just started to feel baby move, so I am feeling so much better now. I'm a bundle of nerves still but have to keep holding on to my faith that everything will be ok. I think sitting here and typing this out has really helped for a start, I hope that if you are reading this and either you or your partner have suffered miscarriage that my experience will give you the strength to go on. Remember it's nobody's fault, just natures way of saying that it wasn't to be. Love&Peace to you all Ellie & Andrew, (oh and the bump).

Answer by nikkie
Submitted on 3/27/2005
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sorry for everyone lost well here is my story in july 2004 i found i was pregnant i was thrilled very much so ive been with my husband for 7 years and was on the depo provera shot for 4 years i never thought i would get pregnant.went to the doctors every thing was fine till sept11 2004 i stared to spot something not blood though went to hospital they said every thing was fine the nexted day it happened again so i went back and well they said the baby died at 7 weeks i was so upset devastaded why me why did i not miss carry i been carrying a dead fetus all this time i was so mad at my self cryed and cryed sept 15 i had an dnc baby was gone. now im pregnant again im 18 week pregnant every thing is going great im so excited ill just love this baby twice as much hang in there it only too me 3 months to get pregnant again.i pray for you and my baby

Answer by Gina
Submitted on 4/19/2005
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I would just like to say that a miscarriage is one of THE worst things that can happen to a woman. I had my first one without even knowing I was pg. I had a lot of heavy bleeding, I thought I was having a period. But then something came out of me that looked as though it was a baby in the early stages. It was kind of like some sort of bean shape with little veins inside of it. I never told anyone until just recently, and that was over three years ago. I became pg again and was so excited that I started telling everyone. I went for an ultrasound and it was confirmed. Then came the cramping and heavy bleeding. I was sent to the hospital to have a d&c done. My baby never started to develop. I was crushed and I to go on anti depressants and then everything seemed fine. I found out that I was pg for the 3rd time on feb13 2005. I had a baby in my womb that stopped growing at 5 wks. But by the time frame it was suppose to be 10 wks. I was devastated, I lost all hope in my faith and started blaming not only myself but God too. I am still trying to figure out what went wrong but I come up with no answers. My doctor says it's normal to have three m/c before having a baby. I don't much believe that myself. Right now there are four people that are in my family that are pg and I can't really be as happy for them as I would be otherwise, had everything been ok with my babies. I am starting to not Blame GOD as much because I am told that things happen for a reason, three reasons I don't know. I do believe that I have my own personal ANGELS looking down on me hoping the very best for me in all that I do in life. To MY Babies that are in the heaven's above Mommy loves you still. To anyone that may read this I hope you will find some peace in your life after a m/c, I know from experience that its hard and I myself am still trying to find that inner peace. I am writing this as more of an outlet to find that peace than for any other reason.

Answer by kitty
Submitted on 4/29/2005
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Listen to my story, I had been trying to get pregnant for about a year when i finally got pregnant i was so happy. i went for my first doctors appointment and couldn't hear the heartbeat the doctor told me that it sometimes happened so i went scheduled a second appointment. I started to bleed one day at my 15 week and knew it wasn't normal i went to emergency and got a ultra sound done. To find out the whole time that i had a blank egg that had not made it too my sac. The baby hadn't even been there for 15 weeks. I had to go get a D&C to remove the placenta. To find out a 15 weeks that nothing was there was devastating. All the doctors could say is they don't know what causes it, it just is. They told me to try again but there isn't any guarantee that it wont happen again!

Answer by michelle
Submitted on 6/7/2005
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I know everyone must carry a burdon or sadness at sometime in their life. Thank you for the friends that have been so loving to me expessially Maria she shared so open and honestly her grief and it somehow helped me with my loss. We were expecting our fourth child and I loved my baby I had concerns and I was scared but above all I loved my baby no matter what could have happened. I was expecing twins or something like that when I went in for my sonagram, not that my tiny baby had died. She has not come out on her own and in the afternoon my doctor will have to remove her from my tummy and I think it is going to be so very difficult to cotrol my emotions, but with the love of my family and my friends I will get thru this as have many other woman. I am glad that I shared with many people that I was expecting because had I not I would not have the support that I do now and I would not of had the joy of telling my friends of my little baby even if it was for a short time she was loved and some women never get the chance to experence the joy of finding themselfs with child. Lexi Rose you are loved and will always be a part of our family. Your oldest brother Vicente thought it was so sad that we did not get to meet you but someday we will all be together. I wanted another child so much I hope I can find the streghth to someday maybe try again becase I know the outcome even after all the grief and sadness of bringing a new life into our family the joy will be as great as the grief I feel tonight. I will see you in my dream sweet Lexi Rose.

Answer by Patricia Goodman
Submitted on 7/7/2005
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I am so sorry to you all may God bless you! my story is sad too. I am 32 years old and have two beatuful children one thirteen year old daughter and a seven year old son. when my thirteen year old was just four months old I relized I was pregant again.I was scared to death because I was a new mother and money was tight and the thought of another baby before my first was out of diapers. oh no so I hoped I would miscarry. but forutunaly on Aug. 17, 1992, ( just two days after my 20th birthday I gave birth to another 7pound 13ounce beatiful baby girl Brenda. but I guess god seen fit to take her from me at 8 months old she died of sids. so shortly afer she died my husband and I tried for 2 years to have another baby so in June of 95 our wish was granted. but not for long I miscarried at seven weeks. needless to say we were devastated. so two years later we were blessed with a 8pound 10 ounce. bouncing baby boy. but in early 2001 I miscarried again and it was terrible. I was 12 to 14 weeks pregant and bleeding everywhere. and the hospital kept me ovenight because my blood pressue had dropped. I became pregant again Aug 2004 and holloween miscarried again. and It still hurts but I look at the gifts god has given me and thank my stars every day. so if you are lucky enough to have other children thank god. It don't replace the ones you lost. but It gives you something to live for!!! and for those of you that have lost I will pray for all of you. God Bless PG.

Answer by anon
Submitted on 7/20/2005
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I found out i was preg on july 2 2005. Me and my b/f were so excited although we are only 18.So i went to my pediatrician on july 5 she said ill go to the ob on aug.3. well i didn't make it that far.I started bleeding lightly on july 14.called the doc they said its normal.The next morning it was worse so i called again they told me the same thing. I told them to give me an appointment anyways.i went in that day and she did a transvaginal ultrasound and found nothing in my uterus.she said i could still be preg though if i was under 6wks because it wouldnt show up in the transvaginal.i got bloodwork done and my hcg levels went in half in 2 days.so if you feel you're having an m/c tell the doc they need to see u.And i have a question-how long did u all bleed for after the m/c???

Answer by jenn
Submitted on 7/21/2005
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Last November I found out I was pregnant. My Husband and I had just married and we were thrilled. I had really horrible pain and ended up in the E.R. I had a Vaginal Ultrasound done and they found out I had a eptopic pregnancy, not only that but they found cysts that had burst on my tubes and 400cc's of blood in my tummy. I went to surgery that day and they got everything out. 7 Months later I just found out I was pregnant again. We were so excited and worried at the same time. I went in and had an ultrasound done at 6 weeks. That day I started to spot. Spotting turned into bleeding and I went in to have another ultrasound to see if everything was ok like the nurses said it was and the Doc didnt see my pregnancy. That day after bleeding for a week i miscarried at home. I am still bleeding it has only been 3 days since this sad event of loosing another baby. I am very sad and scared of what will happen in the future. I know that everything happens for a reason and god is only doing his job but it is still very hard to understand and deal with. I dont know who to turn to for help or to talk to and i feel alone. For everyone out there who has suffered such a sad misfortune I am truly sorry and i pray for all of you. Everything will work out and never give up. I love you all.

Answer by MaryM
Submitted on 7/29/2005
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My last period was in May and started for one day and then stopped for a day and a half and then started and completed the last three and a half days later. June came around and I had no sign of my period and then began to get excited. I waited and took a home pregnancy test on July 1st and it was positive. I am 41 years old with a 14 year old child and ecstatic for the new one. My doctor thought me to be 8 weeks and one morning I woke up and went to the bathroom to urinate. After wiping myself I saw a slightly dark color of urine but no pain. I panicked but went on to work. Just before going to lunch I went to the bathroom and saw dark streaks of blood and panicked even more. I went to my doctor's office and they saw old blood. I was sent for an ultrasound and a internal ultrasound. The doctor late told me that they were not able to locate the embryo and that the sack was malformed. I was devastated beyond what I could have ever imagined I would be. I had taken total care not to do anything wrong and don't understand. Instead of the DNC I took medicine prescribed by my doctor and was home when my body went through the process of releasing the sack and issue of my child. It was a chilling experience. One because I was so saddened by the loss of my loving child and second because I felt like my body was falling apart. It was very, very, very hard for me. I cried because of my loss and I felt that I was being made responsible letting go of my child. My doctor gave me the option for the DNC but I was the one who chose the medical process. This is a little over a week since it occurred. I have not yet gone back to work because I felt I needed to mentally workout my personal feelings before being able to even focus on my day-to-day job. But surprisingly, I am not feeling as depressed as I did. I still cry, but I thank God for the opportunity to have experienced my second pregnancy and still pray for another opportunity. I'm really scared because I am not certain if I can handle it not going well and I am concerned that my body and all other factors will cooperate but again, I certainly hope and pray each and everyday so.

Answer by Alina
Submitted on 8/15/2005
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I am so sad, i just had my second miscarriage, first at 9 weeks, this one at 13.. The sonogram performed at 9 weeks reveled a strong heartbeat and the baby was the right size, I went for my next Dr appointment at 13 weeks, and they could not hear a heart beat, I went for a sonogram that same day and while laying on a table saw my baby, but there was no heartbeat.. I am going for a D&C in couple days.. I am so devastated, I've never heard that so many women having miscarriages. as I got pregnant very easy with my first baby and never had a complication, she is almost 15 months now.. and until now I didn't even imagine that I can have problems. and that it is so frequently happening to woman around me, just seems no one really talks about this.. I am so sad, we will be trying again, I know I am blessed with one child, and I know now how precious she is, I just so want a big family I have so much love for another one. We talked with my husband, and if there will be no chances we will adopt, I want to hear lots of happy children voices and laughter in our house. And as to answer a question, how to prevent a miscarriage, seems that there is nothing that can be done. I am very healthy and fit person, never smoked, have a very healthy diet, no stresses, and a loving family.. and here I am with a second miscarriage.. I wish everyone the best., alina

Answer by missy
Submitted on 8/16/2005
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hi,my name is melissa and i have had 2 m/c .I have muscular dystrophy & so my first m/c I was very scared & stressed out because I knew my mom would be really scared for me & tell me to have an abortion . on my first docter visit at 9 wks. the dr. could'ntfind a heartbeat i was really devastated . Then 5 yrs later I was 27 & i found out I was pregnant . I was exited I was 3 mo. when I had my first u/s when they told me my baby had a cystic hygroma . they did amnio to make sure there was no chromason problems at 14 wks. and there wasn't . i was told that it would go away but at 21 wks my baby girl passed away . It was the hardest thing I have ever been through but we made it throught . my docters tell me that it wasn't my fault and that it happenes to 1 in every 1000 women . now a yr. later we are trying again but i am so scared . please to all of you don't blame yourself it is in gods hands & I believe when it is your time to have a baby he will carry you through it .

Answer by Brandihutch
Submitted on 8/16/2005
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I just had my second miscarrige. It is very hard. I had my first one over a year ago. I started spotting about 3 weeks into my pg. I went to the doc. right away. I had to go to the doc twice a week for blood test. Then when the doc said that the baby was going to be ok I lost it about less then a week later. I found out that I was pg again about a week ago. I was scared to tell anyone or even go to the doc. for what happened the last time. I told my husband and my parents, and then on sunday I started to spot again. I know what was going to happen, and it did. It is very hard because, we have been trying now for over a year, and it finally happened. It was over before it even started. I went to the doc. to see why this is happening to me, and all she could say was we can not tell you why it just sometimes happens. I one thing that hurts the most is on my papers for the doc. they say threated abortion. It makes it sound like I did not want the baby, and I did more then anything in the world.

Answer by kittycat
Submitted on 8/23/2005
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i had had 3 losses, but the last one was the worse of all, i was 16 weeks pregnant, and my boyfriend was so happy, but since i had had problems before, i had to really take care of myself this time, i was pregnant with twins, came back from a trip to see my boyfriend, and ws spotting and went to see the doc, he told me was nothing, later he told me i needed a cerclage done, but he did not tell me he did not hear one of the heart beats, well a day before i was going to have the cerclage, i miscarriage , i was devastated it, and now to top things, my boyfriend told me i lied about th pregnancy, and that i am fixed, i have no clue where he got all this but its not true, now i have no babies and nobody in my life, hope this never happens to any of you

Answer by michelle
Submitted on 9/26/2005
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I have read through these stories and I just wanted to tell the ones out there that are hoping for a miscarrage something. I have been trying for two years to get pregnant and I never really wanted kids but my husband did in the worst way and I wanted him happy. Finally we got pregnant I went to the doctor and found out I was 5 weeks along. Three days later I started spotting, just like everyone else doctors said don't worry. Two days later I miscarried. I was only 6 weeks when I lost my baby and for not really wanting a baby I would give anything to have my baby back. Think of this as a blessing and let the baby go to adoption just please don't wish any harm on a unborn baby. Although some may call it a fetus this early in the game it is a baby as soon as you conceive, it is a life. For those of us wanting a baby my prayers and thoughts are with you.

Answer by chris
Submitted on 10/12/2005
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I got preagnet when i was 16 i had a son in 2000 he was all around helthy other than clubed feet and developemental delay. He is now five when i had him i was young but i already suported myself i was in a very bad relashonship . After 6 years i finnally got strong . and left about 3 weeks after i found out i was preganet i was devistated my first dr appt they said there was no heart beat i was so releaved they sent me to the hospital and suprise there it was a heart beat ive never thought i would even consider abotion but my ex was very pursistant and following me every where i knew if he found outhe would talk me into coming back or make my life miserable! so with my faimlys support i did it. i still regret it now ive met a really good man and i have my life in order and we have tried to have a baby together and ive had to misscaraes this year and i wonder if the abortion had anything to do with it phisically or is god punishing me even thoug it was almost two years ago i never thought i would wast another child but i do now more than ever .

Answer by hoping4baby
Submitted on 10/12/2005
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I would love to respond individually to all of you out there, but it's impossible to find the time. To those of you who are under 20 and wishing for a baby, I want to encourage you to go after what you want but also to remember that you still have time. I'm 40 and my time is running out, but recently we looked into adoption and we are very happy about the possibility. I truly believe that we will love our adopted child in the same way we would love a biological child. I also want to encourage the young girls who do not want to have a baby yet, who realize they cannot care properly for them. Please do not abort your child. There are couples just like us who are infertile and want to adopt somebody's newborn baby to raise it as their own. It takes some sacrifice to do so, but it is much more joyful than having an abortion. With an open adoption you will always be able to know how your biological child is doing. They won't be yours anymore, but they will still know that you gave them life and they will have a relationship with you, though more like an aunt or a cousin, depending on what you agree to with the adoptive parents. If you truly know that you will never be ready to parent your child and you want to have a chance at making a stable life for yourself before having kids, then please look into adoption. What do you have to lose? You'll make your baby and some infertile couple very happy and someday your baby will grow up to thank you for what you did instead of you having to feel the emotional pain, guilt and regret of having an abortion for the rest of your life. It's truly the loving thing to do,and that's what makes it the right thing to do. It's a myth that adopted children feel sad that they don't have their biological parent. As long as they are loved well by their adoptive parents and they have some kind of relationship with their biological parent, then they are very happy. In fact, they feel especially loved by many people. God bless to all. Thanks for listening.

Answer by Devistated
Submitted on 10/21/2005
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Just getting on this website has made me feel like i'mnot alone. I have a 5 year old son, and my husband and I were expecting another one in early May. That is until yesturday. I had a doctor's appointment and was supposed to be 12 weeks pregnant but the doctor couldn't find a heartbeat. They did an ultra-sound and it was confirmed that the baby had stopped growing about a week and a half ago. I went for a D&C this morning. I know this kind of thing happens to people a lot but we are really scared to try again even though we want a baby very much. It's soon though and we just need time I suppose. We just keep wondering the same thing over and over....Why? Why? Why? But unless the test reveal something, we will never know.

Answer by Bonnie
Submitted on 10/30/2005
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I found out i was pregnant in July of 2005 I think i knew from the very start that something was not right i was sick all the time don't remember getting to eat a meal that did not seem to come right back in a rare form I was not able to work because everything made me sick. But I was listing to everyone else and not listening to what my body was saying. Through being sick and every thing i was still getting bigger and at 11 weeks i was already in maternity clothes and getting bigger. at 131/2 weeks i started bleeding but is was more like spotting and it never lasted very long. it was 2 weeks before my first initial visit and the bleeding got a little worse, so I called the doctor she sent me in for a emergency ultrasound and vaginal and later on that day i found out i was pregnant with twins but i had already lost one and it wasn't looking to good for the 2nd that was one of the longest day of my life i felt like i had let my babies down my husband down my family down. to make this a little shorter i came to realize that god has a purpose for everything he does in my life and that it was not my fault and no matter what i had done God wanted my babies to be with him and there was nothing i could have done to keep them here so to who ever is reading this i know you have heard this a lot bet there is a reason just believe in that because one day you will get 1 or 2 of the best gifts in this world thank you for letting me tell my story

Answer by Holly
Submitted on 11/10/2005
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Heres my story... When i was 14 i was raped by my cousin, because of that i got pg. I went in to the doctor and he tried to get me to have an abortion. I knew that was wrong. So i went along with being pg. By the time i was 10 weeks i was very excited about being a mother. Around 11 weeks i had a miscarriage. I am now almost 16 and i just found out i am 9 weeks, the doctor told me i have a 50% chance of delivering a healthy, living baby. I am very excited. I have only told my teacher. My boyfriend HATES kids and never wants one. How should i tell him? Right now i am only planning on telling him if i make it thruogh 16 weeks because my doctor said that is the most crucial time.

Answer by Tater
Submitted on 11/17/2005
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I was 15 years old when I got engaged, and got pregnant for the first time. My boyfriend (of the time) and I were so excited, but neither one of us knew how to tell our parents. I was about 3 or 4 months pregnant when I misscaried, and I know this sounds bad, but I am happy that I did. I wanted to be a mom, and I still do to this day, but I do not think I would have been ready to care for a child back then. I am now going to be 17, and I was involved in a 1 night stand type of deal, and I found out that I am now between 4-6 weeks pregnate. The father wants nothing to do with the child, and I am afraid to tell my mom about this one. She still dont know about the last one, and I havent even told her that I am sexually active yet. how can I tell her that I need to go to the doctors with out her finding out that I am pregnate.... I want to tell her on my own time. Im afraid to do this alone let alone in secret.

Answer by Miranda
Submitted on 11/19/2005
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Hi, My name is Miranda. I have had 3 miscarriages total. I just delivered a baby girl on November 8th. I was only 19 1/2 weeks and she could not survive. This was the furthest I have gotten in all of my previous pregnancies. I went to the doctor on November 3rd. I was immediately hospitalized and had to have an emergency surgery. I had dilated 4 cm. I had a surclage inserted in me to prevent further dilation and labor. There was a high chance that infection will come because my body had already been exposed (having dilated 4 cm). I stayed in the hospital for 2 days on complete bedrest. I was sent home on complete bedrest. I began having contractions on Sunday. My water broke on Monday. I had my baby girl on Tuesday, November 8th. I did not get a chance to see her. My husband did. I didn't want to see her because I knew that it would be too painful! We had a Graveside Service for her on Friday, November 11th. It was so hard burying my baby. We are not giving up. My husband and I are months away from turning 31. We realize that our clock is ticking, but God has a miracle for us. God has promised us children. We put our trust in God, not the doctors! My heart goes out to each of you. Loosing a baby is one of the worst kinds of pain a human can feel.

Answer by Melissa
Submitted on 12/7/2005
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I am sorry to hear everyone loss i never had a miscarrige but i wouldnt say that would be my biggest fear. Ive seen alot of my friends that i use to hangout with in Elementary become pregenet some have them and some dont i think there is a reason for everything and if it was ment to be it was ment to be i am 18 years old and i dont plan on haveing kids at least until i gradurate from high school which is this year that is why i hang out with gay people u wont have to worrie about them getting u pregnet or anything along those lines if ur a partier like me or what not but i belive everything happens for a reason maybe u have this miscarrige because god is trying to give you a lesson or just giving u the expierince but back on my biggest fear and my biggest fear is dying well giving birth my good friend that i had been friends with for 16 years had died well giving birth her daughter though is living strong and healthy so that makes me happy she reminds me so much of my good friend its really cute dont worrie just look at it this way the reason god may be doing this you is telling u that u need to start trusting in him and it happens for a good reason not a bad reason just be thankful ur a female that can have a baby cuz i know alot out there that would love to have a family but cant but i still look at it there is a good reason maybe god didnt give u that purpose everyone is here for a reason and a good reason at that just havnet figured it out yet but hopefully you will find out well i got to go sorry for the loss once again better luck next time

Answer by DeeDee
Submitted on 12/8/2005
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Your still so very young so I wouldnt worry yourself about it as it will happen. Travel and enjoy the world with your loved one. I became pregnant at 18 years of age and I think that the shock of the whole thing that i miscarried after only a month. When I was 25 years old I became pregnant with my long time boyfriend and Started spotting at 10 weeks. Went in for an ultra and they said that there was no baby just the sak and that I may have imagined being pregnant in the first place??????? So those pregnancy tests were playing with my head eh?!! At 31 years of age I became pregnant again and at 6 weeks began bleeding and basically didnt stop. Was admitted to hospital a week later. I didnt have a d&C done as it was coming out very naturally. That was my third miscarrage. I should have been due my period 4 weeks later but nothing came. after 6 weeks i took a pregnancy test (thinking that it would definitly be negative!) and it came up positive. I really didnt want to go through all that again! I start bleeding at 6 weeks and was on and off bleeding till 9 weeks. I was trying to stop a misscarage and so when I was in work I had my feet up and when I went home I went straight to bed and had my legs up.I did that for a few weeks and now...... I am 14 weeks and 5 days gone. Iv had several ultra/transviginal sounds done on me and everything seems to be brilliant! Having 3 misscarrages I know that you just cant stop them no matter what you do. But rest up and dont stress does help you!

Answer by Cathy Schlabach
Submitted on 12/18/2005
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Here is my story. My husband and I tried for a baby for a year and a half before we got married. It never happened. We thought we couldn't have children, so we stopped trying to have a baby. Well we never protected it. Anyway, We got married on May 20th 2005 and I prayed that day not to get my period, because I had on a white dress. By that day of my wedding I was 7 days late. I'm always late, so it didn't dawn on me that I could be pregnant. Well, another week went by and I hadn't gotten my period, so I made a doctor's appointment. They then saw me like a week and a half later. They did the usual pap on me and I asked for a pregnancy test, so they did one on me. Come to find out, I was pregnant. I was soooo excited. Three days later, my heart was shattered. I started bleeding at my sister's house and she rushed me to the hospital. I miscarried, and passed the baby at the hospital. I cried for days. Come to find out, my HCG level was at 4 or 5 weeks. I was 8 and a half weeks pregnant. Why didn't doctors catch that? Now I have been trying for 6 months now, and continue to be let down. I cannot conceive again. I'm a failure! The hard part that I'm going through is that my twin sister is 6 months pregnant. I would be 8 right now. My angel's due date is next month. I having a really hard time. I feel like I will never get a chance again....

Answer by Hope
Submitted on 2/5/2006
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I think I knew I was pregnant for the very first time from the moment it actually happened. When I was almost one week late, I took a pg test and it was positive. My husband and I were so excited and I remember being so incredibly happy because having a baby is what I have always wanted. The days after we found out, I went to my doctor and she warned me at that time not to get too excited or tell too many people about it because there was an overwelming chance that it wouldn't last. She told me to go ahead and make a follow-up appointment for my first trimester check-up one month in advance. I don't know whether to presume what she said to be an omen or not, but later that day I started cramping severely just all of a sudden and blood seemed to start pooring out of me. The only thing my doctor could do was prescribe pain medication and tell me to call her if something I knew wasn't right began to happen. I heard from her a couple of days later and she told me that the blood work I had done came back with levels of progestin too low to sustain a pregnancy in the first place. All I could do was think of how happy I was when we found out. I was I mom for one whole day that I actually knew about and it was the greatest feeling in the world. My first trimester check-up has now turned into my miscarriage check-up to make sure everything passed like it should have and that I am o.k. I wish my baby were o.k.

Answer by saimah
Submitted on 2/10/2006
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i had a miscarriage at 9 weeks in september 2004. i was at work when i realised tha i had a brown color discharge, because it was my first pregnancy i was so afraid and didn't know what to think.i went to A&E and they examined me internally with this big glass apparatus 3 times and it really hurt. the gynae sed it was not a miscarriage and told me to go home. but as soon as he sed that i started bleeding dark red blood, i told him and he sed it was normal. so i went home and whilst i was sleeping i felt really bad pain at 5 in the morning. went hospital and doc sed i had a miscarriage. i was so upset and ANGRY at the docs. i was fine when i went to hospital but when they inserted those 4 big class apparatus into me i knew they had done something to my baby.

Answer by janie TX
Submitted on 2/19/2006
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Hi I found out that I was pregnant in Jan 06 by a store pregnancy test and went to my OB right away. I was told that i was 5 wks pregnant I told family and of course my husband we were happy and told our 4 year old son that he will be having a baby bro/sis soon. But on Sunday Feb 14 I started spoting then i started with clots. I went to the ER and they told me that it was a threat to a miscarrige and sent me home. On Monday I went to my OB and he told me that I was still pregnant but that he did not see the pregnacy going far. Im sad but Im hoping for a miricle they do happen. I had my HCG level cheked two days ago and it showed im still pregnant. Now its just a matter of waitin to see whats going to happen. It is hard to be in this situation.

Answer by hannah
Submitted on 2/19/2006
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i had been trying for 2 years and finally it happend i was so overjoyed i stoped smoking and clubbing and changed my job so that i wasnt lifting heavy things my hole life had changed and i didnt want to do any thing to risk hearting my baby but it was to late at 10 weeks my worst night mare had come true at first i blamed my self and then i blamed my mum because she has lupus and has had 6mc but then i realised no ones to blame but nature and no matter how many times i cry or scream inside i no that empty hole were my baby should be will stay empty untill next and next time ill be scared but hopefull and ill be praying every night for mine and every one elses un born child.

Answer by Lisa
Submitted on 2/25/2006
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I'm sorry to hear this but i also lost a baby i was 16 when i has my first little girl everything went great with her me anf my husband were trying to have another because my dr. said that i have pre cancer in the cervix do in late june to the begin of july i found out i was pr. i was so happy but almost 8 weeks into my pr. i went i was having mild pain and i spotted alittle bit of blood i went to the hospital and they said my baby was ok that i just had to be off my feet for awhile i went to the Dr. 2 weeks after that and my Dr. said i was OK and that my baby was just to little to see but i had a feeling that something was wrong so i went about 45 minute drive to another hospital more adivced come to find out i had lost my baby that day i had spotted i had the dnc the day before my 20th birthday i was so upset with myself and with that Dr. but so far i made it through its been hard but with the blessing of god i am 3 months pr now i am scared but only god know

Answer by danelle
Submitted on 3/26/2006
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just giving my story. i was two months preg. and did not know it. my husband and i thought i could not get preg. after ten years of marriage and no babies. (we accepted that if it was meant to be it would happen) i have irreg. periods any way, and had gone months with out a period and still not be pregnant. so i had no clue two months, (breast were sore, but i thought i was about to start) i was taking the weight loss pill phentermine, and carried heavy packages and tables to a county fair, did not eat right because of the phentermine, just not doing my body right if i had only known. one day i raised up from the floor and felt my stomach and the tighness and told my husband i think i am preg. took a test. it was post. went to the doct. the confirmed, and sched. for first visit a few days later, started brown spotting, called doc. they brought me in, did a test, found baby, heart beat and all. bleeding stopped, few weeks later bleeding started again, more heavy, bright red, went to doc. they did ultra sound, heartbeat, said some women just bleed, baby looks good. they said as long as we keep seeing heart beat the farther along you are, the best. bleeding would stop then start back, would call the doc. they would bring me in, they would do a ultrasound, baby heart beating, looked good, i get sent home. went for an appt. march. 9th was bleeding again, slight stomach pains, (thinking it was just growing pains) they did a doppler on me, my husband and i actually heard the heart beat for the first time together. i was almost 11 weeks. that evening my stomach pains got worse, but the bleeding stopped. i thought i had gas cuz it got worse, i had no idea i was having contractions, or i was having a miscarrige my bleeding stopped. i tried to walk it off, i felt pressure and felt a pop and a tiny bit of water came out and then the baby. i lost the baby the same day we heard the heartbeat. we did the testing, they could find nothing wrong, they had no reason why i lost the baby. i personally think it was because i had been on that phentermine and lifted what i did for so long, when i should of been making a nest for my baby, by not lifting, and taking the right vitimans, and eating right. to all these young children out there saying they want to lose the baby, think about the ones who would do anything to have a child, put your child up for adoption, give your child to a church, they will take care of you. just dont do anything to harm you or your baby. that child will make someones dreams come true. and who knows, after you carry your baby to term, you might find your self in love with that child and suddenly grow up. God bless you all. i know what you are feeling and it is such a horrible lonely feeling. i dont think i want to wait the three months they tell me too, but i have to, i dont want to take the chance of not waiting and something going wrong and me again thinking it was my fault. i know it could happen again. but i pray it wont. not to me, not to any of you who are trying so hard to get pregnant again. Danelle

Answer by sarah
Submitted on 4/20/2006
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well iam only 16 and iam so excited iam only 7 weeks right now, but the father and my family is supposing me 100percent, which is a big help, i know a close person to me had a miscarriage but she got over it eventually. Its was a hard time to deal with it it was gonna be her forth child, but i guess is wasn't meant to be. When i first herd that her baby had died i started crying i was so worried about that happening to me. But i think if you have a positive attitude, and think all good thoughts it helps ALOT! some of your guys story's are so sad and i couldn't image that happeneing... but think of how strong you all are to get thought that, let alone share your story's i admire you all!! XxXxXx

Answer by Strawberry
Submitted on 5/5/2006
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From experience I could tell you to take care of your body.I had a fair share of miscarriages and they were all devastating to me and my boyfriend.The worst miscarriage I had was when I was 3months.I past blood clots,tissues,and I was bleeding real heavy for 26 days.I could have bleed to death.My doctor gave me pills & a shot to stop the bleeding.After I miscarried I cried for 2weeks straight,I felt like it was my fault. But I realized that it wasn't my fault.I just didn't know much about being pregnant,so I didn't take care of my body the way I should have been taking care of it.I am currently pregnant now so I just hope and pray to God I don't miscarry. May God be with me,and good luck to all the pregnant girls out there.Take care of your body.Remember there's a precious life inside of you!

Answer by Strawberry
Submitted on 5/5/2006
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From experience I could tell you to take care of your body.I had a fair share of miscarrages and they were all devastating to me and my ex-boyfriend.The worst miscarrage I had was when I was 3months.I past blood clotts,tissues,and I was bleeding real heavy for 26 days.I could have bleed to death.My doctor gave me pills & a shot to stop the bleeding.After I miscarried I cried for 2weeks straight,I felt like it was my fault. But I realized that it wasnt my fault.I just didnt know much about being pregnant,so I didnt take care of my body the way I should have been taking care of it.I am currently pregnant now so I just hope and pray to God I dont miscarry. May God be with me,and good luck to all the pregnant girls out there.Take care of your body.Remember there's a precious life inside of you!

Answer by sue g
Submitted on 5/8/2006
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i went for routine scan at 13 weeks on 4th may 2006, just 4 days ago and was told my baby's heart stopped beating about 2 days prior to my scan. my 11 year old son and 8 year old daughter were sitting with me as was my partner. i had a d&c 3 days ago. i am still in shock i think my children are disappointed and as this was going to be my partner 1st child he is hurting as much as i am but i think its not sunk in yet i still feel like its a dream and I'm going to wake up in a cold sweat. everyone is saying how strong i am but they don't realize I'm close to breaking inside. i had a miscarriage in 1993 before i had my son and last year i had an abortion and now i feel like God is punishing me for my abortion which in turn means i have hurt not just my baby and myself but my partner and children. how can i stop the hurt i caused everyone and how can i make God forgive me. I'm 32 years old and feel like a lost child

Answer by Kimmy
Submitted on 5/13/2006
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Well here is my story, I'm a 28 yr old, I have a nine yr old daughter a 4 yr old daughter and a 6 month old son.After my four yr old daughter was born I got pregnant and At 24 weeks I had a M/C it was so hard I had no pains or cramps the baby just came out and he was dead.Then 2 months later I was pregnant again.Mind you I was on Birth control I was at 22 weeks pregnant and had a M/C again and I couldn't believe it.I started to blame myself but My body just gave up, my baby tired to live.But God did give me my son after yrs of trying FOR ANOTHER BABY I got him.Well I would like to tell everyone don't give up, God does everything for a reason, All my prayers are with you, and to all that wants a baby God will give it to you when he feels your ready, believe me.Thanks so much Bye Kim

Answer by cherished96withamiracle
Submitted on 5/18/2006
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WELL MY STORY ILL KEEP SHORT well i sympathize with u all i lost a child at 11weeks on 4th june 1995 to this day i still get very upset and falls on my parents wedding anniversary to so doesnt help but i was also under LOT STRESS from these neighbours from hell aLSO WHICH I FEEL played apart in this BUT its not a feutus its a baby i actually coughed while being on toilet and ii heard like a popping sound i know its gross but i wiped and they was my baby i screamed i had to take the baby in a container to the hospital and have a same done then straight to the hospital to have a dnc was worst day my life i couldnt look at babies for a while and wondered y me why god took my precious little one who meant everything too me as i needed help to have a baby as my husband cant have kids so it make me annoyed when these young ones here asking to help them have miscarriages my god have them ad let people adopt the kids i was luckily to have another child who is now 10yrs old and he is my miracle my life and it breaks my heart that asks me for a sister or brother but its hard as he know this dad isnt his real dad but he loves him so much and because i have a bit of weight on now they wont let me have another child so the thing that hearts most is i have always loved kids and i have one little miracle but it hurts i cant let him have a brother or sister way theres more to this story but it s way to long but REMEmBER GOD DOES THINGS FORA REASON THIS IS TO MY CHILD WHO ON 4TH JUNE WOUlD BE 11 You were our little angel we loved to hold so close,.You were our little angel with sweet angelic charms.We think back to memories so precious and so few,for one day God had chosen you to be his angel to i love you forever ASHLEIGH lots love mummy n daddy and r little brother tj REMEMBER LITTLE M REMEMBER LITTLE E PUT THEM TOGETHER AND REMEMBER LITTLE ME Ashliegh nt a day ges by my sweetheart that i dont thnkk of u i will see you son my sweetheart xoxoxoxoxox

Answer by lilly
Submitted on 6/7/2006
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Im 18 yrs old, i found out i was pregnant @ 12 weeks.Me and my now husband were excitied,I did everything right...ate the right food,went to all the the doctors appointment,even went to the emergency for every little pain i felt.I even did a level two sonogram to make sure the baby was healthly.At excalty 5 months into my pregnancy ..i started to have "labor" pains ,my husband n in laws said i was over reacting.My water bag broke later that day....on 05/16/06 at 5:40 am i m/c a stillborn ...11oz, 10.5" beautiful baby boy.It hurt so much that my husband cousin recently had a baby,who i cant even hold or look at."Even if we have another baby...there will always be one missing"

Answer by Nicki
Submitted on 6/8/2006
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I just wanted to put my story out there. I just lost my baby boy May 31 2006 at 3pm. He had passed on in my womb about a week before. I went into the doctors office with cramps not knowing I was in labor. They used 3 different machines and three different doctors before they told me they could not find the baby's heartbeat and that I was in labor. I was 19 weeks pregnant when I gave birth to my dead son. Since he was dead for so long they were not sure if they could determine the reason for the baby's death but that he may have been a down syndrome baby. I want to advice young mothers to get the test. I would have kept my baby anyways but I would like to know if it was nature or me that killed my child. Thank you and god bless to all of you.

Answer by Nicki
Submitted on 6/8/2006
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I just wanted to put my story out there. I just lost my baby boy May 31 2006 at 3pm. He had passed on in my womb about a week before. I went into the doctors office with cramps not knowing I was in labor. They used 3 different machines and three different doctors before they told me they could not find the baby's heartbeat and that I was in labor. I was 19 weeks pregnant when I gave birth to my dead son. Since he was dead for so long they were not sure if they could determine the reason for the baby's death but that he may have been a down syndrome baby. I want to advice young mothers to get the test. I would have kept my baby anyways but I would like to know if it was nature or me that killed my child. Thank you and god bless to all of you.

Answer by amber1980000
Submitted on 6/25/2006
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For the last five years i have yearned to be a mother, this last year I had finally given up, it would have happened by now if it were meant to happen so i stopped wanting it and focused on my professional career. About three weeks ago I found out I was pregnant, after all those years of timing it right and trying just about everything on the market it happened on its on.I was 7 weeks when it died, though the pain is so horrible emotionally and physically atleast I had the joy of feeling life growing inside me for a week,I know now that my body is capable of caring life and that is something a few women never have. It has made me open my eye and decide to quite smoking, my body was not prepared for it but next time it will be,it is a blessing to feel life growing ,I cannot hold on to the pain because it will not do any good for the people who love me or myself the advice i give to anyone who has gone through this is " keep ur head up, dont look back, but dont forget"

Answer by Jessy7
Submitted on 7/2/2006
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Hi I am 19 years old and last year I found out that I was pregnant. I was 11 weeks and on the day before thanksgiving I miscarried. They said the baby never formed. I went to the ER three times before they ever did anything about it. I didn't have to have a DNC. But now 8 months later I am almost 7 weeks pregnant. i don't have a doctor's appointment yet so I don't know if everything is okay or not. The worst part is feeling like you shouldn't get to attached to this baby just yet until you know everything is okay because your not sure if it's gonna get taken away from you or not. I juts can't help but be worried and scared that something going to happened. Did any of you out there feel like this after your first miscarriage. I don't have an appointment until I'm 9 weeks and I'm praying that I make it that far. I'm just trying to take it day by day. If anyone out there feels the same way, has felt the same way or has the similar situation then please e-mail me. If anyone has any advice please e-mail me. I just really worried and scared. Jessica starjeska7@netscape.net

Answer by shortcake
Submitted on 7/24/2006
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Look Ladies I'mhere to keep it real and hopefully be your shoulder.I read someone email in they said something i have to agree on if your expecting and you go to all your Dr. appointment's and everything seem to be right one minute and then the next time you visit the Dr. in they say them words i'msorry you had a miscarriage i don't think you should be sad about it yea sure you can be one minute or couple days but look at it like this like i do if you have a baby in lose it God said it wasn't meant to be in this world this is for everybody specially the one's who believe in the same god i do having a baby is a precious thing to cherish why wouldn'tGod let you have it if it wasn't meant to be it doesn't have to be something wrong with you or the baby it's because god saysso!!!!! I haven't experience being a mother yet but soon i hope i never have one but when i do i hope to share my story with you guys so the one's who have had a lost of a unborn child give thanks because it maybe wasn't meant for that but your next one would be the light of your joy MAY GOD BLESS IN BE WITH YOU AMAN!!!!!!

Answer by Rach
Submitted on 8/9/2006
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hi i just had a b-day on the 18 of july 2006 this oct i was suppose to have a beatuful baby boy but on may 27 2006 i had a m/c i was 19 in a half weeks and all through my pg i went to the doc cause ihad some spoting and discharge every now in then.Each time i went to the doc they said oh its nothing to worry about your cervics are just eartadted but could be a sign of a m/c and i shoulkd talk to my ob guess what iwads fine for some months no more bleeding only sometimes after incorse but i was still all good one day after incorse i had some lower back pains but a lot of people have back pains in pg so i thougt i was cool. the next mor i got up was still fine but i had the lower back pains that keep comin in going then they went away an d i went to use the bath room later on that evening and my water bag broke i had went to the hosp and they told me i lost i my fluid and the baby was going to die i start to cry this my first child i ask the doctors can they put fluid back in to me they said no the do that for people whos futher along and that if they tried the fluid would just come back out then i was like theres nothin at all you can do they said no then i said what if my baby comes out in his heart is still beating they said that they would not do anythig cause im under 20 weeks a couple days later my son died inside of me and i had to go through labor that was so hard for me and still is my mind is thinking only about my son why me and trying to have another baby asap. i have pic of my son his little foot prints im so said and i feel like i never have anby kids my boyfrind does not really understand why im taken so hard bexuse gods going to take care of are son and i also stress cuse my boyfriend was diegnoste with a plastic anema and he can die any day if the medcine does not work are the bone merrow transplant does not go through im very stress so i understand every ones lots and i wish every on the best and pl keep me in your prays and pray for my son and my boy friend.

Answer by Rach
Submitted on 8/9/2006
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hi i just had a b-day on the 18 of july 2006 this oct i was suppose to have a beatuful baby boy but on may 27 2006 i had a m/c i was 19 in a half weeks and all through my pg i went to the doc cause ihad some spoting and discharge every now in then.Each time i went to the doc they said oh its nothing to worry about your cervics are just eartadted but could be a sign of a m/c and i should talk to my ob guess what iwas fine for some months no more bleeding only sometimes after inrcourse but i was still all good one day after incourse i had some lower back pains but a lot of people have back pains in pg so i thought i was cool. the next mor i got up was still fine but i had the lower back pains that keep comin in going then they went away an d i went to use the bath room later on that evening and my water bag broke i had went to the hosp and they told me i lost i my fluid and the baby was going to die i start to cry this my first child i ask the doctors can they put fluid back in to me they said no the do that for people whos futher along and that if they tried the fluid would just come back out then i was like theres nothin at all you can do they said no then i said what if my baby comes out in his heart is still beating they said that they would not do anythig cause im under 20 weeks a couple days later my son died inside of me and i had to go through labor that was so hard for me and still is my mind is thinking only about my son why me and trying to have another baby asap. i have pic of my son his little foot prints im so said and i feel like i never have anby kids my boyfrind does not really understand why im taken so hard beacuse gods going to take care of are son and i also stress cuse my boyfriend was diegnoste with a plastic anema and he can die any day if the medcine does not work are the bone merrow transplant does not go through im very stress so i understand every ones lots and i wish every on the best and pl keep me in your prays and pray for my son and my boy friend. oh yah do not go to valley medical hospital in renton washington and if any body that just read my story that needs some one to talk to pl fill free to e-mail me at rachelcdan@yahoo.com

Answer by Amanda
Submitted on 8/14/2006
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I had my first son in April of 2005. About 6 months later I found out I was pregnant again. I was so excited. Things were great at first but in about the 4 week things took an ugly turn. I started vomiting daily and my heart was always skipping beats. I knew something was wrong but everyone was telling me it was all in my head. I figured they were right as far as the vomiting went I mean I did have morning sickness with my son too but I was starting to get very worried about my heart. At first it never clicked in that the baby may be making my heart skip beats so I went in for alot of EKGs. The doctor said it was nothing and refused to send me to a specialist.at about 10 weeks the vomiting was getting severe. I was loosing weight like crazy and my heart was getting worse. I was always having chest pains and I couldnt get my heart to stop skipping beats. I finally insisted on being sent to a specialist. I had a feeling by now that somethign was wrong with the baby and told everyone I think I might be having a miscarriage. Everyone said that if I wasnt bleeding I was ok but I knew diffrent this wasnt a "I think" anymore it was a "Im telling you something is wrong" I made an appointment with a specialist however before I could go when I was 12 weeks pregnant I started to get cramping that wouldnt go away. I went to the hospital told them I think I am miscarrying and sat to wait for 4 hours. My nerves finally got the best of me during the wait and I had an anxiety attack so they had to take me back and put me on oxygen. The doctor came in took blood work and did an exam. He came back and told me everything was fine and they would be releasing me soon. As he went out the door he stopped in his tracks and said you know what lets do an ultrasound to be on the safe side. I went into the sonogram room and they preformed an ultra sound. I ask the nurse who did it did the baby look ok she said I am not allowed to say but good luck. I went back into my room sat another hour. The doctor came in and I smiled but he did not smile back. He said well it isnt good news Im sorry but your baby is dead there is no heart beat. I went into a panic my heart raced and I couldnt take a breath in. The doctor sent me home and the next morning I had my D&C. Afterwards a nurse wanted to give me something to remember my baby by since all I had was one sonogram and it just looked like a pea. She asked was it a boy or a girl, I cried and said I dont know what my baby was. She said well what do you think it was. This whole time I thought it was a boy but when I went to say a boy girl came out of my mouth and it was weird right after I said it I really thought "Hey you know what I think it was a girl I just have this strong feeling" the nurse then told me you know sometimes it helps to name the baby instead of calling it an it. So I did I named my baby Abby May. She was so right nameing it did help. A couple of months later they had a service at the hospital for all the babies lost that year. I went and lit a candle for my Abby. I still have trouble with missing my child. I think about her every day and cry alot.But there is comfort in kowing she is with the Lord no longer in any pain. I am now 16 weeks pregnant with my next child. There have been some bumps n the road with it more with my health the baby has been very healthy but I am very happy and cant wait to have my new baby.

Answer by NampaMomma
Submitted on 8/22/2006
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Here is my story, I found out in 2003 I had PCOD and don't ovulate naturally, periods and ovulation must be chemically induced. My husband and I received this news after trying to conceive for 2 years. Not understanding the lack of periods and weight gain amongst other things. With help we finally had a healthy baby boy in march of 2005. We wanted to start trying again right away and were able to go through the process this past May, we were so happy to find that we were once again expecting. At 8 weeks pregnant I began spotting, the doctors said I was fine and come in the next week after an ultra sound. The bleeding got worse and worse. I went in a few days before my scheduled visit, they once again told me I was fine and not to worry unless I was soaking pads. The morning of my appointment I had passed a blood clot the size of my fist, I brought it in and they did another ultra sound, said I had a hemorrhage and is pretty common, but baby was fine and not to worry. I lost the baby later that night. I am still so sad and empty feeling, and don't know how to handle myself. This happened last month.

Answer by angie
Submitted on 8/27/2006
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HI, my story is this,I got pg and had a baby girl at 20. two and a half years later, I got pg again,...new relationship though,...to my now husband,...carried to 11 weeks, and lost the baby,.. dr.'s said it could be a fluke,... I could try again,...so I did, three months later, I found out I was pg,...great! carried and had a baby boy!!! but my husband wanted so bad for a large family,...so we have tried again,...three more times,.. thats four misscarrages to two live births,..I find myself asking why? with no real answers to be found, I have had all the bloodwork, and my babies have been tested for chromosone defects and all, nothing shows up,..anyhow, if thats not hard enough,I hemeraged last time around durring the d&c and had to have two of them in a row to stop the bleeding,.. this time they want me to wait it out,..misscarry at home,...I'm scared to death that something is going to go wrong,.. I was 13 and1/2 weeks when I found out for this one, I geuss the baby is developed to 12 weeks,..I'm close to 15 weeks now,.. even though I know there is no heartbeet,..I dont know what to expect about delivering it at home, and how safe it is,...can anyone give me information???If I dont go naturaly they will do a d&c after a month,..I'm scared of waiting that long, but thats whats recomended for me. And as far as having more children,..it's only a fantasy for me, as I'm not going to put myself at risk any more, when I was blessed enough to get my girl and boy, I am having a tubal soon after this ordeal is over. I've already signed all the papers. I get so sick while pg,.. I am now 28 yrs old, and my kids are 3 and7 I'm going to stop trying for what I feal is not ment for me, and enjoy my blessings!I do wish all of you the best with whatever decission is right for you, weather to keep the faith, or except the alternative.I don't mean to be offensive in what I write,..I'm just hurting, and fealing so alone, and right about now, I want this whole thing over with for me.If you have advice for me my email is skipnsky@yahoo.com,Thanks for hearing my story.

Answer by sami
Submitted on 9/19/2006
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hi, this is my story me and my partner were tryin for a baby and when we found out i was preg we went to the doctors and as i had put on a lot of weight they assumed i was 12-14 weeks gone and i argued with them tellin them i had done a test the month before as my periods were late and it was neg and i had my periods so they sent me for an ultra sound 3 wks later and discovered that i was inded only 7 wks by this time. i had already ran out and started buyin things for the baby and just 2 days before my 12wk scan i had cramp and a spot of bleeding so i went to the hospital and it took then hour and a half before they seen me they asured me every thing was ok and told me to go home after takin blood tests. but i refused as i knew myself something was up so they agreed to do an ultrasound and told me my baby was ok after turnin the screen away so i was sent on my way later that evening the pain and bleeding was really bad so i phoned ii was told i was fine as the night went on i kept phoning as the pain was un bareable i was finaly told to come in and be seen so i returned and waited for over 3 hours to be seen and i went to the toilet and gave birth to my baby she was so small but she had all her fingers ect and there was nothing at all wrong with her an hour later the doctor finally came to see me and confirmed i had went in to labour and m/c i was keep in over night and offered a d&c but by the time i was to go for it everything had come away naturally. i was then told the results of my blood tests and told i had a rare blood group and would injections in later pregs. after being home a week i received a call saying that i needed to go bk to hospital as the scans and tests showed i was still preg so i went bk gettin my hopes up thinking it was just a nightmare just to be told sorry you have m/c and to make things even worse than it was the lost my babys body and still havent found her yet. a year later i fell preg again just as i was starting to think i couldnt have kids i went to see my midwife who confirmed i was preg and i was giving a date for 2wks to have a ultrasound scan when i started bleeding heavily through the night so i phoned out of hours and made them aware of my situation and told them of my first m/c and that i was to have an injection if i started to bleed i was told go to bed and come in tomorrow so when i went to be seen i was giving an ultra sound and told they cant do anything for me today apart from take more blood tests and they would contact me as the baby was to small to see as i was only 5and a half weeks gone. i still hadnt heard anything and i keep calling the hospital and 2 days later i finally got told i had m/c again. i started to give up hope and me and my partner hardly went near each other so it was a bit of a shock to find out 7 month later i was preg again so i had just went to the doctors and had it confirmed and once again at 5 and a half weeks gone i m/c that was on sunday there. now that i cant cope and will never want to try for the one thing that i long to have with my partner again and after naggin at the doctors for along time they are now going to do tests to find out how i cant carry a baby and keep m/c i have hit a all time low and cant cope and keep askin what is it that i have done to deserve this. can any one help me? im so lost and long to hold my babys in my arms.

Answer by BELLA
Submitted on 10/7/2006
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I FEEL SO ALONE. MY FAMILY HAS NEVER BEEN THROUGH A MOMENT LIKE THIS AND IT FEELS LIKE NOBODY UNDERSTAND AND NO MATTER HOW MANY TIMES I EXPLAIN MY FEELING NOBODY GETS IT. I HAVE RAISED MY 2 STEPCHILDREN EVER SINCE THEY WERE BOTH IN DIAPERS. I'M THE ONLY MOTHER THEY REALLY KNOW. ME AND MY HUSBAND GOT MARRIED IN JULY AND SOON AFTER TRIED TO BECOME PREGNANT.MUCH TO OUR SUPRISE WE GOT PREGNANT ON SEPT 27 2005. I HAVE ALWAYS WANTED CHILDREN. IT WAS THE HAPPIEST DAY OF MY LIFE. I WAS SO ANXIOUS TO KNOW THAT I TOOK MY DAUGHTER AND A PREGNANCY TEST IN WALMART AND TOOK MY TEST IN THE BATHROOM. THE TEST WAS POSITIVE. I THREW THE BOX IN THE GARBAGE AND WITH A BIG SMILE WASHED MY HANDS. A WOMEN SAW THE BOX AND SAID CONGRATS. I WAS SO HAPPY TO TELL MY CHILDREN.THEY WERE SO EXCITED. THEY KISSED MY TUMMY AND TALKED TO THE BABY EVERYDAY. I HAD PERIOD CRAMPS FROM THE BEGINNING AND EVERYONE SAID THEY WERE NORMAL.THEY DIDNT FEEL NORMAL. MY KIDS BIOLOGICAL MOTHER WANTED TO COME INTO THERE LIVES AFTER JUST HAVING A NEW BABY WITH AN UNKNOWN FATHER. I DIDNT WANT THIS TO HAPPEN AND MY HUSBAND WENT TO MEDIATION AND GAVE HER VISITATION EVERY-OTHER WEEKEND AND HOLIDAYS. I WAS HURT FROM THE CHOSE MY HUSBAND HAD MADE. THE FOLLOWING TUESDAY I WENT TO THE BATHROOM AND I FOUND BLOOD. I LET OUT AN AWFUL SCREAM. MY CHILDREN WERE IN THERE ROOM AND DIDNT KNOW WHAT TO THINK. I CALLED MY HUSBAND IN TEARS. HE DIDNT KNOW WHAT TO DO. HE WAS 1 HR AWAY AT WORK HE CALLED HIS MOTHER WHO CAME AND GOT ME AND WHILE I WAITED I CALLED MY DAD. THEY TOOK ME TO THE HOSPITAL. I SAW MY PEANUT IN MY ULTRASOUND AND EVERYTHING LOOKED GREAT THERE WAS EVEN A HEARTBEAT. THEY TOLD ME TO GO HOME AND FOLLOW WITH MY USUAL DAY 2 DAY SCHEDULE. I WENT HOME AND THE NEXT DAY I BABYSAT MY COUSINS BABY. NEXT MORNING I CALLED MY HUSBAND IN TEARS AND HE RUSHED HOME AGAIN. MY BLEEDING STARTED AGAIN. MY GRANDMA TOOK ME TO THE HOSPITAL THIS TIME. MY SISTER RUSHED DOWN AND EVERYBODY THOUGHT I WAS GOING TO HAVE A BREAK DOWN ON ACCOUNT EVERYONE KNEW THIS HAD BEEN MY DREAM EVER SINCE I WAS JUST A BABY MYSELF. I LOST MY BABY THAT NIGHT. I DIDNT CRY AND I DIDNT LET ANYBODY KNOW HOW I FELT. WE HAVE BEEN TRYING TO GET PREGNANT FOR A YEAR KNOW AND WE HAVE HAD NO LUCK. WE HAVE BEEN TRYING TO FIND OUT WHAT THE PROBLEM IS AND WE FOUND OUT IT WAS MY HUSBAND.. HOW IS THAT HE HAS TO CHILDREN OF HIS OWN. I DONT BLAME I REALLY DONT CARE WHOS FAULT IT IS I JUST WANT A BABY. EVEN THOUGH I KNOW I WILL NEVER GET MY BABY BACK I FEEL LIKE ILL NEVER GET A SECOND CHANCE. OH GOD PLEASE HELP ME I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO ANYMORE. IF ANYBODY CAN TELL ME HOW TO GET OVER MISCARRIAGE OR TELL ME HOW TO GET PREGNANT ONCE AGAIN PLEASE DO... THANKS FOR LISTENING......

Answer by starly
Submitted on 10/9/2006
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i found out id miscarried at ten weeks, when infact my baby died at 7 weeks. i had to have a d & c. i was devestated. nothing can prepare u for the mixed emotions u feel. thinking ur alright 1 minute, then sobbing the next. i just felt totally empty.its still so raw as its only been 5 days since it happened, but im starting to feel a little stronger day by day. i have a fantastic support network who have all rallied round me to give a shoulder to cry on or even just a hug. u need them hugs!! im also very lucky as i have an 11 yr old son and i count my blessings that ive got him to cuddle and put a smile on my face.its really helped reading all your stories even tho its all so very sad. i know my miscarrage has happened for a reason as sad as it is, and hopefully i will go on to have the baby i lost, coz i believe they never leave you completely, there just waiting to come back down when the time is right. love and good luck to you all x x x

Answer by Littlesnappy
Submitted on 10/13/2006
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Today, is Friday, Oct 13, on Sunday i took a pregnancy test, then another and it showed positive. My husband and I in pure shock and joy. On Tuesday, I went to the dr. and the blood test confirmed the pregnancy. On Thursday, I did my second blood test to see if the pregnancy was progressing. In my heart I knew something went wrong, I've been so scared and nervous and shaking. My suspicions are correct my dr. just called me today, Friday, Oct 13, 2:29 p.m., I'm miscarring, and will have to wait a month or so to possibly see if I can try again. After 2 years of trying, lots of clomid, lots of shots of repronex, and now a miscarriage, I don't know if I can put myself thru anymore, I don't think I can mentally take it anymore.

Answer by hope is all we have
Submitted on 11/2/2006
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I 'am 26 years old with and healthy 5 year old daughter my husband and I got pregnant in Sept. 2006 and I was perfectly fine no warning signs at all, I had morning sickness and everything. We went for an ultrasound on Oct.17th 2006 and they did not see a heart beat so I went for more blood work and my levels were high and normal so I had to return for another ultrasound in one week we went back on Halloween morning and still nothing no heart beat and no growth. My doctor told me that I could have a D&C or use a medicine that they put into your vaginal area. So I picked the Meds and it brought on cramping and soon after that the bleeding and the miscarriage. We are so scared to try and have another baby my husband and I do want more children I know god is on our side.

Answer by Broken hearted twice
Submitted on 11/14/2006
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Last year I found out I was pregnant with my second child. I was 6weeks along when I went for my first ultrasound I saw the heartbeat and was very excited the doctor said the baby was a little small but not to worry and to take my vitamins and eat healthy. I did both my next apt was in three weeks which put me at 9week along, a few days before my next apt I strated spotting and called the Dr. she asked if I was cramping I said she then told me not to worry. When I went in for my apt they could not find the heartbeat and said the baby was very small and had stopped growing. I went the next day to have a hightec ultrasound hoping the Dr. was wrong saldly she wasn't and I had to wait 3 more days to get the D&C that was very hard. I was very depressed for along time. A few months ago I found out I pregnant again and was very excited. My first ultrasound was at 7 weeks along and we didn't see the heartbeat my doctor told me not to worry that it was just to small still and that she would do an ultrasound for me every week until I could feel the baby move. I went in yesterday to hopefully see the heartbeat and it wasn't there the baby hadn't grown past 5 weeks I didn't bleed or cramp. I'm sadly going to get my second D&C done tomorrow and maybe get some answere as to why this has happened again.

Answer by Ashleigh
Submitted on 12/14/2006
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I'm sorry to hear so many people have to go through something like this.Here is my story.My mom was pregnant in 2001 for her fourth child,she carried it full term.It was 2weeks before her due date and she went for a visit and found that the baby had tied the cord in a not and died,she had to deliver the baby naturally.She fell into a deep depression for a year.It's now 2006 and i found out I am 5 months pregnant.I am terrified that the same will happen to me, but i think she is trying to scare me and I don't know why. I'm still not sure if she's mad at me or if this is just bringing up the memories of her lost child.I'm not sure what i should do, if anyone has any advice my e-mail is..sweetcajuncutie915@yahoo.com.

Answer by Mairu
Submitted on 1/8/2007
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I'm 21 years old and was told at 16 I would never have children. When others got broody I would turn away as I never thought I could have children. On the 27th of December 2006 I found out though a pregnancy test that I was pregnant. My husband and I were delighted. only 2 1/2 weeks later at 4-7 weeks (They never made it clear how far I was gone) They took a scan as I started bleeding. There was no baby inside the sack. They took blood tests and my hormones had gone down. I have another blood test on Wednesday. But they have told me I'm going though a miscarriage. I am not really sure how to deal with my emotions. My husband and I have spoke about it and comforted each other. I feel like my heart has been torn in two. There is nothing I can do to stop this from happening.

Answer by vicky
Submitted on 1/20/2007
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hi first of all i am sorry for your loss i know it is very upsetting. i had an ectopic pregnancy back in October it would have been my first i passed through naturally without having to have my Fallopian tube removed 2 months passed and now I'm pregnant again i thought when i lost the last one why me what have i done wrong i didn't want to congratulate any one who is pregnant. now I'm pregnant again i am taking it easy there is no explanation behind miscarrying but all you women out there your time will come but if you do find out your pregnant get to the doctors and they will book you in for a early pregnancy scan don't worry to much about what happened before as that can put you and baby at stress so do what I'm doing know and take it easy some women can loose one or two and then have a really healthy pregnancy so life sometimes can be to cruel to the wrong people but thats the way life is Vicky 18

Answer by Vanessa
Submitted on 2/7/2007
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5 months ago i had a misscarrige i was 5 weeks pregnant i was bleeding big time cloths of blood a tissue from the placenta came out of me i think i know why i had gone to Vega's in the summer and dirint know i was pregnant got sick over there for change of wheater started drinkin alot of nightquil and dayquil so i could feel better well when i came back home i found out i was pregnant 4 days later i had the miscarriage 5 months pass by im pregnant again im 6 weeks pregnant i had symptoms at first my boobs were hurting bloated peeing alot thats about it im nervous cause they went away i just pee not alot i dont have any bleeding or cramping but i go tomorrow for and ultrasound and take out blood for my hcg levels im really nervous i dont want to have a miscarriage again or for them to tell me i dont have anything in the ultrasound im so worry specially cause the hospital its expensive almost a brand new car i got bill big time the first time a had a miscarriage and what about it happens again v136872@yahoo.com any advise

Answer by SSO
Submitted on 2/12/2007
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am 41yrs old, I was pregnant last yr and after 3months to the pregnancy, I went for an ultra sound only to be told that there is no baby in my womb, after series of medical examination I was later told that the baby is in the Tube, so I was operated upon and my tube was removed, I was so scared that I will never become pregnant again. 2months later I found out that am pregnant again only to be woken up by a miscarrage exactly 2months old to the pregnancy, I wept bitterly and I wonder what is happening to me, I just got married at 40yrs old and I needed a child badly for my husband, as God will do his wonders, I descovered after 2 and half month that am 6wks pregnant, am really happy and am positive that my baby will survive now, God has been so wonderful to me that at my age I have no problem of conceiving, However, my prayer to everybody concern is to be positive in whatever we are doing, pray to God, and dont let your life be taken over by an act of" God". God knows best and He will never leave us to suffer. Am hopeing and trusting in God that by His grace, I will deliver my twins this time around in Jesus name Amen

Answer by jade
Submitted on 2/17/2007
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This is my story. my first pregnancy went well, I gave birth to my daughter Becki. After 1year, i fell pregnant the pregnancy was going well or so i thought the 3 months passed and i thought that everything was going to be fine, then i started getting bad cramps, after a couple of hours i started bleeding then blood clots followed, went 2 hospital they said they would keep an eye on me, had scans nearly every second day for 2 weeks baby was fine, a week later i started to get bad cramps. I was told to go for a scan and they couldn't see the baby's head, it was then that i new that there was something wrong, the baby's head was engaged! Just after the hospital admitted me, told me i would need 2 stay there until the bleeding stopped hours after i gave birth to my 16 weeks baby girl. The results came and they confirmed that the baby was fine all the way threw. The only problem was that there was an infection in the placenta, I'm expecting again and scared that this may happen again. its horrible even thinking that it might happen again.

Answer by Melzmiska
Submitted on 3/6/2007
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Hi there my names Melissa, I'm23yo. i feel everybody's pain, & god does live. we don't know why god chooses to take our babies from us, but what i do know is this, god will give that child back to you, you must have faith in our heavenly father. i am currently 6weeks pregnant, with my third child, I'mtoo very worried about miscarrying, or even stillbirth. I have a beautiful 2year old boy. my second son was stillborn at 26weeks, it is so very hard to deal with. now 6months after my second son's birth I'mpregnant again & i have a good feeling this time I'llmake it, because i went to church, & there was the pastor, talking, he said as long as your faith is still good, 'meaning you still believe in god', our might father will give you that child back, whether its the same one i don't know, but if i am blessed with a live baby, i will be naming it after my son i lost, & who knows even a Christian name. so who ever is pg after a loss, please have god as your biggest support, because he does really love. & don't forget to pray. Good luck my fellow mum's. If anyone needs a chat please contact me at nickham@chariot.net.au i won't ear bash you with Christian stuff, i just love god & always have & always will, he is my Saviour & my hero. there is not much you can do to prevent a loss of a baby, just what they tell you, don't drink ETC. XX XXX

Answer by TAE
Submitted on 3/10/2007
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Hey ladies, I think it would help me if I got to talk about my story. well for starters me an my now ex-boyfriend had been together for 9 years. We were high school sweethearts. after being together for 6 years and i had never been preg I guess he decided that he would move on. He moved out of the apt that we shared back home with his momma, so shortly thereafter I found out about another female he was dating and she was preg which i found out she was preg in Feb and the baby would be due in Oct. well she ended up having the baby and he wanted to come back home unfortunately I wasn't thinking and let him come home to make a long story short he now have 2 yes 2 kids which all this time I still hadn't got preg. so we started falling apart due to the babies and their mothers so i left him. well we was still seeing each other off and on which i got preg as you can imagine i was so excited being that it was my first time and he convinced me that mine was the one he really wanted. well i was bleeding for almost a month which i knew that couldn't be right so i called my doc she said it was normal and i needed to come in so they could do my blood work well before i could make it into her office i started to pass blood clots so i went to the er the er doc said he was for sure that it was going to be a miscarriage which then i was about 5-6 weeks. well recently i went for another u/s and turns out i did have a miscarriage but the baby was not passing like it should have and i need to have a dnc done. on yesterday i wasn't feeling so good after work so i came on and laid down which i felt very weak and my stomach was hurting but it wasn't like cramping it was more like a aching pain. so when i finally did get up to use the bathroom i could feel something about to fall out so i caught it and examined it to my surprise it was the baby i could make out the eyes and the head but nothing else. I am so terrified that it will happen again. I am 27yrs old and this would have been my first child. for a moment i questioned GOD like why me. I have so many friends that have kids and really didn't want them and they can preg at the drop of a dime but not me. as of right now i really trying to come to terms that it wasn't just the right time and GOD only shield me and my child from heartache & pain. I was 6wks and 4dys I still have a lot of questions as to what went wrong and why. before i knew i was preg i was a smoker and soon as i found out i was preg i went cold turkey just for my child. I was thinking maybe me smoking is what did it but I'mnot sure. I am sched to have a dnc this Wed it sucks so bad. But ladies I can now relate to your pain and stories it does me good to know that I'mnot the only one going through what I'vebeen through. I am soooo sorry to hear about your losses but just understand that its in GODS hands and he is the creator of ALL life. Man may make it but GOD creates it. keep your faith in GOD and he'll see you through. xoxoxox TAE

Answer by FARA
Submitted on 5/25/2007
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I can understand all you pains and fears, I have 2 beautiful children a girl and boy, i longed for another baby, when i found out i was pg again i was so excited, i had my 1st scan done at 10 weeks and Dr said all was fine, I had been having back ache and cramps i went to the Dr and told him that i felt something wasn'tright but he sent me home saying everything was normal.I began to lose a lot of weight and was also told that this was normal too. Then i had my 20 weeks scan and was told that the baby didn'thave no heart beat,my world shattered and tears just began to flow. I was given a tablet and that day and had to come back to hospital 2 days after for a normal delivery, these 3 days were the worst days of my life! I just kept putting my hand on my stomach hoping to find a heart beat I just couldn'tbelieve my baby had died. then in hostpital i was given medications internally, and the contractions came within an hour, my waters broke it was all like a normal delivery , and my baby was born i had i BOY! cse my placenta didn'tcme out i had to have a D&C it was so horrible, i was in hospital for 4 days, which was a constant reminder of what had happened. 3 weeks on i just feel so empty, i and trying to over the past months thinking if if was my fault did i do any thing to cause this. But i am grateful to god for giving me 2 beautiful children, but i feel for the mothers who MC and have no children. Plz be strong and try to think what ever happens, happen for a reason. And God knows what is best for us and also a MC is painful and traumatic it can be a blessing in disguise. Believe in god it helps you get through everything and anything!

Answer by sweettater2003_2007@hotmail.com
Submitted on 6/23/2007
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okay here is my story....i am 18 years old and in second semester of college. i found out i was pregnant on may the 18th of 2007 i was estatic i could not wait for my little "peanut" to be here. me and my boyfriend who already has three beautiful little boys were very happy and doing eveything right. unlike most teens of today i am not wild at all and i was very ready to be a mommy cause everyone has told me i am a great step mom. i went for my first doctors visit on may the 31st and everything was fine. so like they told me to do i could go to work and i would be fine because i didn't have to do any kind of lifting or anything. so i went to work that night and took my blood thinning shot as directed by my OB. one side effect of the shot is stomach craps so when i started cramping i thought well it is just from the shot then the cramps got way more intense and i had to leave work i went home and sat in a warm tub of water and they kinda went away. the next morning i wok up with blood all over and i knew what happened. they rushed me to the university hospital where i live and sure enough "peanut" was gone i was devastated and still am because everything happened naturally i didn't have to have a D&C done but the miscarriage only happened 3 weeks and one day ago and i am still taking positive pregnancy tests and my HCG level is still high and not falling any. i hope and pray everyday that it is still there but i know deep in my heart that it is gone. so i am very sorry for everyones loss and trust me i know how you feel what hurts the most with me is the day before it happened i was a t the doctor and they saw a heart beat and everything was fine i got a picture and everything. so i am very compassionate about all of your losses and if you would like to talk you may email me at sweettater2003_2007@hotmail.com i will be more than happy to talk to any of you.

Answer by Eb from NC
Submitted on 7/13/2007
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This is directed to Jenn... Luckily I have never had a m/c and I am currently 13 weeks pregnant. I heard my babies heartbeat last week and im so excited. Im really sorry for everyones loss but to Jenn i want to say that you are still very young. Trying to get pregnant at 17 is a BIG descision. Me and my current fiance tried to get pregnant at 17 and i couldnt i thought i wasnt capable but i believe it was because i was too young and the time just wasnt right. Once you are pregnant there are gonna be alot of extra stress and bieng so young may put even more un-needed stress on you and your unborn child. Stress is a factor in a misscarriage so i urge you to wait until your finacially stable and maybe a little older. You have so many good things to look to for the future. Another m/c could really hurt you.

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Question by adriane
Submitted on 8/8/2003
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What can i do to prevent a miscarrage? adrianeb3@aol.com

Answer by sali
Submitted on 9/14/2003
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i had misscarage befor two months i want to become pregant again

Answer by kennedy
Submitted on 9/15/2003
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I just had a miscarrage at 10 weeks and if it is going to happen it will just happen, just enjoy every week of your pregnancy

Answer by Rebecca
Submitted on 10/10/2003
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Here my story. My husband and i have been trying for a while. I have one healthy baby boy he was 18 months wanted them to be about 2 years a part. I had my last period on July 14. took a pregnancy test and it was positive. we were so happy hoping for a little girl. went to the dr had a ultrasound done saw the heart beat at 7 weeks and when i turn 9 weeks and 4 days i had a dr appointment knowing every thing was ok got there and thy broke my heart with the news that they could not heard or find a heart beat a week later went back for another ultrasound and still nothing the next day had a d&c done.

Answer by Babygyrl
Submitted on 10/22/2003
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I believe that no one can stop a miscarriage from happening. You can only hope that you will have a healthy. Like I pray every night that my unborn child will be alright. I am only 18weeks.

Answer by Rach
Submitted on 8/22/2003
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You cannot prevent a miscarriage. If it's going to happen then it was not meant to be and something was probably wrong with the baby.All you can do is try again and pray for the best.You can have a normal healthy baby after a miscarriage,I did.

Answer by linsey
Submitted on 11/17/2003
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i was only 14 weeks old when i found out i was pregnant. at that time i didn't want a baby b/c i was to young so i tried so hard to have a miscarriage. so my second visit to the Dr. he had told me that i had a miscarriage from being under a lot of stress. at tha time i was so happy then all of a sudden i felt so sad so on Aug. 2001 i found out i was pregnant again and on April 15 i gave birth to a beautiful little boy.

Answer by lilgirl
Submitted on 2/7/2004
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i know this is terrible, but i recently found out i was pregnant, and i know that i cannot have this child, it is illegal in this state to have an abortion, and im actually hoping for a miscarriage, help me.

Answer by Mary
Submitted on 2/10/2004
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What state are you from? Did you think about adoption so many people would love your baby.

Answer by Tinker Bell
Submitted on 2/15/2004
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hey I have a friend who is pregnant for the second time she is 17... The first time she had a miscarge the second time was a miracle... Her doctor couldn't find the heart beat at 5 1/2 months and the baby was not moving two weeks later we were down town(salem) she felt the baby move and kick when she seen the father. The next monday she called the doctor and she went in and they did an ultersound and the baby was fine she is almost 6moths now and can't wait!!!!!

Answer by shelly
Submitted on 2/25/2004
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i had a miscarrage at ten weeks i am only fifteen but a baby is the only thing i want out of life i found out i was ten weeks pregnant and then 1 week after that i misscarried i was so scared and i am going to try for another baby soon

Answer by amanda
Submitted on 3/3/2004
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hello- i was 8 weeks when i found out i was pregnant. i was so happy and my doctor did an internal ultrasound and i saw the babies heart betting. @ 12 weeks i started to bleed and i went into the emergency room and the did a pap and said my cervix was closed so my chances of having a mc was only 25%. well they did another sonagram and they said there was no heart beat the baby had died at 9 weeks. the scheduled me for a DnCbut it happend by its self.. they still had me do the d and c and it was the hardest thing in my life i am trying again!!

Answer by DIana
Submitted on 3/9/2004
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HI.. I know how it feels to have a misscarrage, I had one at the end of my 3rd month back in september.. It sucked, I have been aching ever sense to hold that baby in my arms that I lost, and I tried to prevent that from happening.. Alot of people told me it was for the best because I had just turned 16.. But I want my baby... I have learned you can not prevent a misscarrage!

Answer by lil_b
Submitted on 3/13/2004
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i was 18 yrs when i found out i was pregnant.i guess i really didn't pay attention to it being in high school and having prom. that is until i was about 14weeks and had a miscarriage. it was so painful. i cried a lot i really wanted it but then i thought maybe thats just what god wanted. now i I'm 19 and I'm 4 months pregnant everyday i would be so scared for the same thing to happen again. i know this is terrible but i some times hope it does happen again or i think about abortions. till this day I'm not happy with my life and i don't want to be pregnant i want to go to school and work also the dad doesn't want to work and hes always out drinking with his friends.

Answer by Shannan
Submitted on 4/5/2004
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My husband and I went through lots of fertility treatments (shots ever day the whole 9 yards) then after stopping for 3 months i ended up pregant. It was one of the happiest times in our live. My first doctors appoint. went great then at 10 1/2 weeks i called the doctor on Mon., Tues., Wed. and she said that spotting was okay i told them something was wrong but they said i was over reacting then the day after Christmas i had to go to the er and i had a miscarrage. I am so sorry for anyone who as gone through this pain. But is there any one who can help me deal with it????? Plz help???

Answer by grace
Submitted on 5/11/2004
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Hello, my name is grace about 2 months ago my mum had a miscarrige. i find it very difficult as there are 2/3 peole in my year (in year 11) in my school that are pregnant. i find it diffiult as it is my lst year and that i am the only child, i cant think about babie to make me start crying. i am starting counsaling coz i need someone to talk to and it cant be my mum as im worried that she'll get up set email plz to tell me it will be ok grace_fun21@msn.com

Answer by patience
Submitted on 5/19/2004
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I prayed everyday and night over a year for the most precious gift from God to be born from my womb. I found out I was pregnant in March 04 and miscarried 10 weeks later. I never understood why or how it happened, but I never stopped trusted and believing in God. I believe I will conceive a healthy baby in the near future and will continue to believe until I'm looking in the face of my beautiful baby. So my advise to all of you is continue to pray and trust in God. He works miracles and answer prayers 24 hours a day, seven days a week, every minute and every second of the day. Your and mine is just a prayer away. Keep the Faith!

Answer by priscilla in pa
Submitted on 6/2/2004
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what are all the signs of a miscarrage? i think i might be haveing one at about 14 weeks along....i been under alot of stress...and the past 3 days been having lots of cramps but i thought u always bleed with a mis carrage can someone help me email me at motherof1son2001@yahoo.com

Answer by Nicole
Submitted on 6/12/2004
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I had a little boy in Feb of 2004 and when my son was 3 months I found out I was pregnant. I don't want to be pregnant right now so I am kind of hoping for a miscarriage. I'm only 17 and two kids right now is not on my to do list. I know this may sound bad, but does anyone know what I can do to maybe cause a miscarriage?

Answer by cat
Submitted on 6/19/2004
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I have been reading the board and realized that most of the people out there are children. A word of advise concentrate on your books and not sex. Your body is precious, what you do now in your life will determine who you be in the future. Life is beautiful, if you have sex and get pregnant take the responsibility and raise the valid. Sex is for grown people, and if you decided to do what grown people do, you should do what a grown person would have done " raise the child"

Answer by Jenn Jenn form MO
Submitted on 7/5/2004
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hello girls i know i am young but i thought i would share my story i was 15 when i got pg and when i told my bf he said when the baby was born he wanted a DNA test and i told him he was the only guy i had been with in 2 years and come to find out when we were dating he was cheating on me and after i found that out i began to feel sick everyday and when i was about 2 1/2 months pg i had a MC and i didn't have a d&c and i am now with my soon to be husband and i am 17 we are still trying to get pg and i was just wondering if there was anyone out there that could help me understand why i cant have the one thing that i want in life!

Answer by Tameeka
Submitted on 8/6/2004
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i JUST HAD A MISCARRAGE HOW WILL i KNOW WHEN IT IS OVER AND WHAT SHOULD I BE LOOKING TO PASS ALSO SHOULD I HAVE A d&c ANYWAY.

Answer by Ginger
Submitted on 8/10/2004
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i had a miscarriage at 14 weeks and that was 5 weeks ago...and i am having signs that i could be again...could this be??

Answer by Angela
Submitted on 9/17/2004
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When i was 16 i found out i was pregnant. Me and my boyfriend were scared to tell our parents when i was 3 months i had a misscarriage me and my boyfriend were very upset. Im 17 now and last month i found out i was pregnant again me and my b/f wanted to do everything rite this time so we told our familys and i started taking my prenatel pills. when i was 6 weeks i started bleeding so i got scared and went to the hospital they said i wasnt misscarring 2 days later i found out i misscarried. I just hope this doesnt keep happening to us.

Answer by Mother Again
Submitted on 10/5/2004
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Hey if you are spotting you could miscarry call your doctor there are some things you can try to keep it. It's possible you do not make the hormone needed for a baby to live for the 1st six weeks and they can give you replacement hormones to try to help.

Answer by Bunny_girl
Submitted on 10/16/2004
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I'am 18 now and pregnat again 6 months ago I had a misscarriage and was very devistated I was beginning my third month the day I had a d&c I'am pregnant again and am very scared but I'm loving every moment of me and my baby together I'am only 5 weeks and am very greatful god gave me a second chance I just pray I'am lucky enough to have this one.

Answer by kayla
Submitted on 10/25/2004
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hi everyone, i am 13 weeks pregnant and tonight i went for a pee and wiped myself and it was kinda brownish it wasn't bloody but it was brownish can someone plz plz help me i don know wut... it was is it a miscarriage? plz answer me back at turkey_turtle@hotmail.com

Answer by Mel
Submitted on 11/2/2004
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Im 3 weeks pregnet, and I only found out because I went to the doctors for cramping and I had red blood coming out for one morning, 10 days after the first day of my period. I had been on Zoloft anti depressant for two months prior, and doc said that bleeding in between periods was a rare side effect of the zoloft. He sent me in for a blood test and a week later I got the result that Im pregnet. I just took 4 pregnancy tests and they all come up positive as well. But Im still cramping and my periods are due in 8 days. How can I be pregnate if I bled. And why would I be cramping. Any info would help. Melissa4875@hotmail.com

Answer by carebear
Submitted on 11/5/2004
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Here is my store, I've had two miscarrges and i'm scared i will have a another one.

Answer by allyson
Submitted on 11/24/2004
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well I'm 14 years old and i had sex one day after my per. Then i had all the symptoms and i just felt pregnant. So far i have taken 7 pregnancy test and the all said negative. But i know i was pregnant i could just feel it. Then i started bleeding for one day then i just spotted. Did i have a mc or what? Is their any one that can help me? If so e mail me at aleesun2590@yahoo.com thank you

Answer by stacey
Submitted on 12/12/2004
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to every one i read all your letters i am deeply sorry for your loss. i wish you all the luck with every thing and give my condolences. no one should have to go through the pain of losing a baby. no one not even some one thats done terrible things. again im sorry for your loss.. stacey

Answer by meele
Submitted on 1/9/2005
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Answer by honeybear
Submitted on 2/8/2005
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My prayer go out to all of you whom had a miscarrage. I am a mother of three and I just had a miscarrage at 13 weeks, this was to be our last child and our only planned pregnacy. With all my other children both me and my Husband never prepared before hand to conceive. My oldest is 11 and she is as devestated as we were,my two younger ones don't understand [5&6].I plan to go ahead and try one last time and hope God will see fit to give me one last heathy baby before I no longer can.God Bless all of you.

Answer by Simary
Submitted on 2/17/2005
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I'm 5 WEEKS PREGNANT (FEB. 2005). bACK IN jUNE 2004 i WAS PREGNANT IN AUG. i WAS TOLD THAT THERE WAS NO HEART BEAT, NO BABY IN THE ULTRASOUND I LOST MY BABY. THE MESSED UP PART WAS THE D.R. TOLD ME THERE WAS NEVER A BABY. MY BODY THOUGHT IT WAS PRE. NOW I HOPE MY BABY will come out fine. BABY I LOST MOMMY MISSES YOU!!

Answer by PCS GIRL
Submitted on 2/26/2005
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I need some help.I'm about 12 wks pg.I went to the doctor and had an us and they said couldnt hear a heartbeat. I've been taking al kinds of blood test and they cant tell me whats wrong w/ my baby. I'm not bleeding or anything but I cant figure this out. Can someone please help. Brandi