im 18 and i gave my son up for adoption for good reasons.he...

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Answer by Francine
Submitted on 8/16/2004
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I am adopted as well, and so my side is with you........ if it was an open adoption...it was absolutely wrong for them not to include you:( I'm so sorry for your loss........ my biological mother is an important part of my life and when we lost Madison both her and my mom flew out together that night before anyone else did to be with us...... In all fairness though, I have to say that I didn't make any of the funeral arrangements... I was very heavily sedated and out of it , I can't remember much except that night and the next few weeks are still bits and pieces........ if they were that distraught as well, they probably may not have meant to leave you out, but weren't thinking beyond wanting their baby back:( You have to remember too that they never really got to say goodbye either. One minute you have what you always wanted and wished for in life... a beautiful healthy little baby to love and the next minute you have nothing but heavy empty arms and want nothing but your baby back in them..... I kept waiting to wake up from the nightmare and that Madison would be in my arms smiling up at me..... it never happened... Once again, I'm sorry for your loss... you made some tough and selfless decisions and loved him more than yourself for wanting to give him a wonderful life...... I bet he's looking down on you from heaven now saying that's my mom and she was such a wonderful mom:)

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Question by liz
Submitted on 3/30/2004
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im 18 and i gave my son up for adoption for good reasons.he was born june 11 2003 he died of sids nov 11 2003 he was 4 months old and it was a open adoption i was very close with the family who took him. when lucas pasted away no body told me thay called me 4 days later and had the fureul without me so i had one for him my self with just pictures of him i was very up set any mother would be. my question is do u think what they did was wrong by not lettin me say good buy to my son after i gave them hope.

Answer by Kimberly, Dominque , Lachire
Submitted on 4/6/2005
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It was wrong of the to not tell you because you were keeping in touch with them.you had the right to see your child and say good-bye.

Answer by johanna
Submitted on 9/14/2005
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yes i think that was very wrong of them i also think you did a good thing by giving him up for adoption if you thought you was unable to take care of him i'mvery sorry about your loss i lost my baby boy 6 days before he would have turned 6 months old if you ever need some one to talk to my email address is lance_johanna@yahoo.com and if u want to write me my address is 309 cooper street west Salem IL 62476 Johanna hobson

Answer by jess-dice
Submitted on 10/31/2005
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they were wrong for not lettin u say good bye u was thinkin about your son and his needs dont give up on life keep hope a alive you can email me jeshar03502pen.ecpi.edu for more inspiration or answers to ur questions.

Answer by Karen
Submitted on 3/14/2006
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Yes, it was wrong not to tell you and allow you time to come and say goodbye. I am sorry this happened to you. The aparents made the pain worst by not acknowledging your right to have closure. I'm so sorry they did this. I'm so sorry you weren't included in his final plans. I wish you peace...

Answer by Peepers
Submitted on 4/10/2006
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I think that it was very wrong of them to not let you say goodbye to him. You gave them hope and a little boy to love and the least they could do was let you say goodbye. I don't see the big deal with letting you say goodbye.

Answer by cherrie
Submitted on 5/18/2006
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i think if you laid down to have that baby you keep it! you dont give up on that child cuz "you cant" cuz you can girl.

Answer by bubblez
Submitted on 9/14/2006
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Yes what they did was terrible.

Answer by unknown
Submitted on 11/5/2006
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i personally think that it is wrong that they didnt tell you, and they didnt invite you to your childs funeral. I think that you should talk to the family that you were close with and find out why they made that decision.

Answer by Shoshana Eli
Submitted on 11/29/2006
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they should have told you as soon as they found out. i'm sorry that they did tell you. they do not need to have any more kids that are up for open adoption.

Answer by Al
Submitted on 12/1/2006
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i think that it was wrong. every biological parents should be able to see there child after they die and be able to go to there furnuel

Answer by anne.
Submitted on 1/1/2007
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i think thats an awful thing to do. you choose and open adoption for a reason. to be involved. thats was rude and unrespectful

Answer by Kasey
Submitted on 4/2/2007
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ok I'm 13 and I'm doing a persuasive speach on why adoption is so great,and after reading that short paragraph I feel soooooo upset.I mean who could be that cruel to do something like that.That was your son you carried him for 9 months just because you set him up for adoption doesn't mean you didn't love him.& you didn't even get to say goodbye.that is soo messed up.I'm sorry that all of that happened but just stay strong bye.:]

Answer by louu
Submitted on 5/16/2007
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no they should have told you but they might have been as upset as you and couldnt bear to speek to you but you should have been aloud to the funeral.

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