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Answer:
The Torah typically frowns on premarital sex. Some extreme statements
have even been made, for example, Reish Lakish has stated that even
one who sins with his eyues may become an adulterer (Lev. Rabba 23);
however, this never became accepted. However, this attitude led to
many of the traditional separations between man and women, such as men
not walking behind women, men and women being separated on festive
occasions and in public parts, and even separate days for visiting
cemetaries.
However, this question is not focusing on the traditional separation,
but the attitude towards premarital sex. The literature makes it clear
that virginity for the female was prized. Intercourse with an
unmarried girl generally fell under the concept of Zenut, which was
prohibited. If an act of intercourse was intended as an mode of lawful
bethrothal, it was considered to be a lawful betrothal (Mishna Kid.
1.1). Although the act was prohibited, children born of such liaisons
were free of any blemish, and there was no question of their legality
(Kid. 4.1,2; Yev. 100b). Nachmanides was lenient about such illicit
unions, and was willing to overlook them (Isaac b. Sheshet, quoting
Nahmanides, 6, 398; also 425 and 395).
What about sexual relationships between those who were engaged and
might live together for some time. This has been prohibited by
tradition (Shulchan Aruch, Even Ha-ezer 55.1). In early times, such
intercourse was reported as unobjectionable in Judea, but not in the
Galilee (Ket. 7b, Ket. 12a). As for the children, some felt they
should be declared Mamzerim (Yev. 69b; Kid. 75a), but this view was
never adopted.
Note that the discouraging of sexual relations outside of marriage is
a property of all Jewish movements. The Reform Responsa on the subject
explicitly states:
On the question of informal heterosexual relations outside marriage
between two consenting single adult individuals, we can then come
to the following conclusions. Such relationships were prohibited
and discouraged by authorities throughout the ages. Little was done
when such relationships took place between two engaged persons,
except in puritanical periods. Other sexual relationships between
single adults were prohibited, and every effort was made to enforce
such prohibitions. These prohibitions were equally strong upon the
man and the woman. In times of lower moral standards, authorities
were occasionally permissive or simply looked the other way.
Generally, the effort to enforce high moral standards succeeded,
and the responsa call attention to the failures. In our own period
of loose standards, it would be appropriate to do everything within
our power to encourage higher standards for both men and women. We
should do whatever we can to discourage casual sexual relations.
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